What Are You Doing Right Now? (210 Viewers)

[IliveForJuve]

Nah seriously though I got ambitions and get it i need money. Soon I'll go teach in either Nunavut or Yukon up north in Canada. Its almost winter all year round and it's isolated. However the pay is beautiful 73-78k salary +24k of northern allowance its a HUGE bonus, gonna do that for 3-5 years, stack up and invest properly. During thst time since I'll be isolated i can study on how to male that money grow.
I dont wsnt to work forever

My breddah, we understand each other.

Financial Independence is where it's at.

 

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[Fr3sh]

 

[Martin]

*pansy shaming. If such trifle bull$#@! breaks a man, how will he react to real life crises.
And do you sport yoga pants with your new fake bodhisattva ways?

Its not about macho, far from it, I just dont get reacting like that, giving away so much power to someone else to the point you succumb to that. Even if I get getting hurt to a point. I seen male friends being destroyed by break ups, so litterally jaded about it and usually tell anyone I care about, like Darman here, just to get their $#@!ing act together and calm their tits, this type of pathetic hold on you its not worth it whatsoever. Mainly because Its usually blown out of proportions big time in their minds, more ego thing then being truly THAT into that other, and you only need to give it time and realize how quickly you will find someone else to make you feel silly about previous overly strong reaction.



I'm talking about adults btw, as kids/teens, the insanely strong emotions was normal and I went through most of that, but as adults nah need to curb that and learn from experience big time.

See, your initial posts aimed at shaming someone for their feelings conveyed zero useful information. Whereas now you're actually coming up with insights someone can learn from. Next time skip the bullshit.

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It's usually men who project future and instantly imagine how a hot chick (ex gf/future gf) is walking with your future kids. Then everything becomes a fantasy and idealizing becomes a reality, you'll create a full creature out of thin air. Those who 'suffer' more are those who don't want to move on and who are stuck with 'she's the perfect one and the only one in world'. Funny thing is it only takes some time to figure out that's all BS and world is full of chicks. One big emotional mess.

It's quite weird how people want to stick in their comfort zone, despite of the zone reeking nothing but pain.

This, so much this.

 

[AFL_ITALIA]

My breddah, we understand each other.

Financial Independence is where it's at.

Lets start a Ponzi scheme

 

[IliveForJuve]

Lets start a Ponzi scheme

I guess you don't need much money if you're in prison.

 

[ALC]

Got 3.5% raise at work.

 

[ZoSo]

Got 3.5% raise at work.

ALC_Billionaire_Bogan

 

[ALC]

ALC_Billionaire_Bogan_Asshole

ABBA

Ftfy

 

[AFL_ITALIA]

That's a nice percentage there, congratulations. Of course how good it is still depends on the starting number

 

[IliveForJuve]

ALC the millionaire brown boy from Albania.

 

[swag]

Just broke things off with the girl I had been dating. Now I'm sipping whiskey at the hotel bar looking for the next one.

Congrats, I think??

Almost never. I've realized recently [] that even my most "sincere" (in my mind) deeds that I thought were completely selfless were driven by self-enhancement motivations (I don't have a better term to describe it with).

I'm impressed by your developed self-awareness.

A little but mostly because of her work, I was only seeing her every couple of weeks. I had the idea that she thought we were being exclusive, so I gave her that talk.

The talk that you weren't exclusive or that you can't see someone once every couple of weeks and call it that?

I ran into my ex from 5 years ago n im drunk, i got kicked out of the bar beacuse i left smoke area to talk to her....fack i honestly wish i havent seeen her man...shit i really do i wish i never see her again everytime i see her it rips me apart. i honestly neverloved any woman like i loved her i wish i wasnt a pussy n bokre up with her becausei was scared of getting my hartt brken by her..was scared of her
honestly is my biggest regret in mt life

Good to recognize it for what it is. If we learn nothing from our past, what's the point?

You have all the love you need right here. :bandwagon:

I'm developing an app which will filter out all the Barca/Real/Ronaldo/Messi bullshit. It has got to be the single most annoying thing about todays football.

Man United is even more bullshit because they haven't been relevant for years. May as well fawn over Sassuolo.

Dude. It takes no more than a year to get completely over someone you really loved.

It can. And then again, it can be less about getting over than framing it and being able to truly move on.

Its not about macho, far from it, I just dont get reacting like that, giving away so much power to someone else to the point you succumb to that. Even if I get getting hurt to a point. I seen male friends being destroyed by break ups, so litterally jaded about it and usually tell anyone I care about, like Darman here, just to get their fucking act together and calm their tits, this type of pathetic hold on you its not worth it whatsoever. Mainly because Its usually blown out of proportions big time in their minds, more ego thing then being truly THAT into that other, and you only need to give it time and realize how quickly you will find someone else to make you feel silly about previous overly strong reaction.

I'm talking about adults btw, as kids/teens, the insanely strong emotions was normal and I went through most of that, but as adults nah need to curb that and learn from experience big time.

I had one massive breakup early on -- a suicidal one which I knew would end in heartbreak but I did it anyway -- that got me into hanging with Buddhist monks and meditation. It was good regardless. It transformed me from trying to control and grab on to everything from life to more rolling with it.

That dedication to letting go, non-attachment, etc just makes Buddhists the worst stalkers on the planet.

Got 3.5% raise at work.

Time to complete that reassignment surgery.

 

[Enron]

Congrats, I think??

The talk that you weren't exclusive or that you can't see someone once every couple of weeks and call it that?

Yeah, it is a relief. The talk that I can't see someone once every couple of weeks and call it exclusive.

 

[king Ale]

Reading the last few pages... what poor wretched people, you guys have never loved, have you

Not getting over someone you love of course doesn't mean you stop functioning or go batshit crazy, but not getting over someone you love is a thing. Has far less to do with your coping mechanism than it does with the person you love. Also makes you a better person. Also is not about visualizing a perfect marriage with a hot individual. You poor people

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Got 3.5% raise at work.

Booyah! Congrats buddy.

 

[Seven]

Reading the last few pages... what poor wretched people, you guys have never loved, have you

Not getting over someone you love of course doesn't mean you stop functioning or go batshit crazy, but not getting over someone you love is a thing. Has far less to do with your coping mechanism than it does with the person you love. Also makes you a better person. Also is not about visualizing a perfect marriage with a hot individual. You poor people

You're delusional. You really are. People are just people. And they're everywhere. Now if you're saying you never quite get over the death of someone who has been your wife or girlfriend for decades or if you lose a brother or sister, that I can agree with. But there's really no excuse for not getting over someone you 'loved' for a year or so.

 

[Martin]

You're delusional. You really are. People are just people. And they're everywhere. Now if you're saying you never quite get over the death of someone who has been your wife or girlfriend for decades or if you lose a brother or sister, that I can agree with. But there's really no excuse for not getting over someone you 'loved' for a year or so.

Dude, it took me probably 3 years to get over someone I wasn't even with. Just someone I had a crush on.

Two facts:
- outliers exist
- the brain isn't smart, sometimes it does really dumb things. what you need then is for someone who understands the mechanism to explain what to do about it, rather than pointless empty statements like "there is no excuse". there is no excuse for murder either, yet murder happens all the time, yes?

 

[Seven]

Dude, it took me probably 3 years to get over someone I wasn't even with. Just someone I had a crush on.

Two facts:
- outliers exist
- the brain isn't smart, sometimes it does really dumb things. what you need then is for someone who understands the mechanism to explain what to do about it, rather than pointless empty statements like "there is no excuse". there is no excuse for murder either, yet murder happens all the time, yes?

Of course.

But none of what you are saying here is excusing you. It's still dumb. And it means that you are either inexperienced or haven't learned how to cope with these things yet. People saying it's okay to not be over someone after three years are not helping you. It's not okay. It's not okay at all.

 

[Martin]

Of course.

But none of what you are saying here is excusing you. It's still dumb. And it means that you are either inexperienced or haven't learned how to cope with these things yet. People saying it's okay to not be over someone after three years are not helping you. It's not okay. It's not okay at all.

I don't need an excuse. This is not a trial. The concept of excuse doesn't apply.
And of course it's dumb, I just said it's dumb. So what? Show me someone who's never done a dumb thing in their life.

 

[GordoDeCentral]

You're delusional. You really are. People are just people. And they're everywhere. Now if you're saying you never quite get over the death of someone who has been your wife or girlfriend for decades or if you lose a brother or sister, that I can agree with. But there's really no excuse for not getting over someone you 'loved' for a year or so.

 

[Seven]

I don't need an excuse. This is not a trial. The concept of excuse doesn't apply.
And of course it's dumb, I just said it's dumb. So what? Show me someone who's never done a dumb thing in their life.

Why do I get the feeling that this is an issue that is not yet resolved for you personally?

Btw, you don't need an excuse for others, no. But you do need to figure out what is best for you. And choosing, yes, choosing to wallow in your misery, is damaging to the rest of your life.