Some day when you're free i want you to tell me the whole story from your point of view about Yugoslavia and how and why it got split up and what exactly you think of it. In a PM of course because i realize how sensitive this whole issue is.
That's easy.
The end of Cold War+The collapse of USSR = No need for Yugoslavia
The Tehran Conference in '43 and the deal between Churchill and Stalin left Yugoslavia as the only 50-50 European country. Due to it's strategic importance both blocks wanted it and neither wanted to leave it to the other side. So while certain countries entered the Warsaw Pact and the others were in NATO, Yugoslavia had to stay out of both, because neither the westerners would have allowed the Soviets to take full control of Yug, nor would the Soviets allow the west to take full control.
That resulted with big investments (especially in the army) from both blocks in order to prevent the other block taking over Yugoslavia.
Now, 1990's come, Berlin wall fell, break of USSR....what do we do now? Shall we leave this big and pretty strong country exist and fear that in the future the same situation will happen and we'll fight for it again, or shall we break it down to 5-6 small countries that won't present danger to anyone?
The Super Powers never solve a problem entirely. It's of no use for them to do it. They deliberately leave small fire, powder keg, which can be activated in the future, when they need it. Lucky for them, history left them many powder kegs in Yugoslavia that they could activate at the right time. The end of the cold war and the collapse of the USSR was the right time.
But try explaining to the pro-western and pro-Russian circles in ex-Yu that both the west and Russia preferred Yugoslavia not to exist if they can't have full control over it.
Actually, the Russians tried to take full control of Yugoslavia through Great Serbia, but the west wasn't sleeping and it didn't allow a great Serbia.
So, it's not just Milosevic's madness, but some long and tricky diplomatic chess games between the Great Powers were the reason of the war in Yugoslavia and the NATO bombings of Serbia.