Your nope implies to what exactly? I have only pointed out certain traits in careers that make good parents too.
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Well you don't always know, but you can sometimes tell that certain people should never have kids. And people know themselves better than anyone else, so if they don't want a child they're probably right to not have one. In other words, one of the first criteria for having a child should be actually wanting one, not because society thinks you should.
Of course one shouldn't be forced to have kids. I'm just arguing the reasons on why not to have kids, and I find those hilarious and stupid. Career being more important or being afraid of the dooms day, resource scarcity or financial meltdown is just lolz. I would totally understand if the argument was/is on which book to read or where to travel. But as women can only have kids in certain age, it's unbelievable that people are prioritizing other things & get selfish so they can travel and eat nicer meals because having kids would mean not getting a new BMW and travels with no Maldives.
My wife and I have felt the same way for years. We've never thought gee, we just have to have kids. We really enjoy our lifestyle and being able to travel and do what we want any given night, so it's never even been a question, really. But this is something only you can decide, and whatever you do, don't ever get forced or pressured into having kids. I've had to combat that for years and it's fucking draining, but worth the battle. It's your life.
And this is another reason why I think swaggers is correct in calling it a cult.
Not necessarily. Life is short. There's lot of shit to do and things to see. You could also have kids and regret it. I know a few people who have admitted they do regret it, and these aren't cases of disability either.
This is another good reason not to have kids.
This is something people always say. But there's no guarantee your kids will be there for you anyway. Just go talk to someone in a nursing home, you'll hear a lot of sad stories about that. And if this is a major factor in deciding whether you (not you personally, but anyone) have kids or not, you're doing it wrong.
And this is another reason why I think swaggers is correct in calling it a cult.
Not necessarily. Life is short. There's lot of shit to do and things to see. You could also have kids and regret it. I know a few people who have admitted they do regret it, and these aren't cases of disability either.
This is another good reason not to have kids.
This is something people always say. But there's no guarantee your kids will be there for you anyway. Just go talk to someone in a nursing home, you'll hear a lot of sad stories about that. And if this is a major factor in deciding whether you (not you personally, but anyone) have kids or not, you're doing it wrong.
She's not right and yes that's really that stupid. Or she's stupid.
You know why she can't find a good man? Because she's working for 15 hours per day and possibly during the weekend too because "she wants to make it". It's the ego. Plenty of women can be mothers but not many can have a great career. That's what triggers them. Chasing the lower percentage bracket gets her more admiration by the society. You know when she will feel miserable? When she gets to her 50s, 60s and see that she's alone. She might have bank account full but she'll be empty. Majority around her will have families. She'll have TV, nice restaurants and... well, probably nothing else, because she has to go to work for another 15 hours.
You know why she can't find a good man? Because she's working for 15 hours per day and possibly during the weekend too because "she wants to make it". It's the ego. Plenty of women can be mothers but not many can have a great career. That's what triggers them. Chasing the lower percentage bracket gets her more admiration by the society. You know when she will feel miserable? When she gets to her 50s, 60s and see that she's alone. She might have bank account full but she'll be empty. Majority around her will have families. She'll have TV, nice restaurants and... well, probably nothing else, because she has to go to work for another 15 hours.
I can't say it sucks to be a millionaire because I never had it.
As for the latter, I think it's the wrong partner as there's no synergy there. If team sucks, it surely will suck. They might have a feeling of missing out. I think that gets sorted out as time goes by and when their kid grows up and they see what they "created" they will be proud and won't regret anything. Or they can at least be proud until their kid creates an account on Tuz.
As for the latter, I think it's the wrong partner as there's no synergy there. If team sucks, it surely will suck. They might have a feeling of missing out. I think that gets sorted out as time goes by and when their kid grows up and they see what they "created" they will be proud and won't regret anything. Or they can at least be proud until their kid creates an account on Tuz.
Holy moly. I was not ready at all to have children in my 20s. 39 now, and sorta feeling ready, but want to wait a couple more years. Girlfriend is 31 and in a rush. Apparently it’s higher risk after 34 for disabilities for women. So I have 2-3 years to decide. If I do have kids, I don’t really want to have them after about 42 though, so that works I guess.
One particular example comes to mind now. A woman a bit older than me who grew up in my neighbourhood, she was a real thot to put it nicely. Anyway, she got knocked up and had a kid. Baby daddy nowhere on the scene, she continued her party life, all kinds of men in and out the house. The boy was sadly neglected other than having his material needs met. Stopped going to school, hangs out with drug dealers, got shot at recently, and is now making gangsta music videos. I don't think he will live very long. Not to mention they seem to hate each other.
She should not have had a child.
She should not have had a child.
Who said it does? I was just laughing at the arguments. I never stopped anybody even if their ideas were stupid.
It's a forum and its point is to speak our mind. I never hold lectures to people on the streets. They can go put their paycheck and bonuses up their ass for all I care. I just wish they'd do my 8 hour shifts too since they are insane.
It's a forum and its point is to speak our mind. I never hold lectures to people on the streets. They can go put their paycheck and bonuses up their ass for all I care. I just wish they'd do my 8 hour shifts too since they are insane.
Thanks, bro. You would be too. Raising kids on the classics! Well-adjusted, able to handle whatever the world throws at them kids.
If I have kids, I definitely don’t want to be 70 when they turn 20. I have an uncle like that and it just seems unfortunate to be in that position, physically unable to really do all the things you would want to do with your kids as they grow up.
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If I have kids, I definitely don’t want to be 70 when they turn 20. I have an uncle like that and it just seems unfortunate to be in that position, physically unable to really do all the things you would want to do with your kids as they grow up.
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Sure the traits you mentioned are all probably better to have than not have in any endeavor but they by themselves are hardly any indicator of being a good parent.
But i guess its hard to go further in this conversation without defining a successful parent? What do you look as an indicator that you've been a successful parent? That your kids are obedient, that they are superficially successful or that they are happy/ stable?
But i guess its hard to go further in this conversation without defining a successful parent? What do you look as an indicator that you've been a successful parent? That your kids are obedient, that they are superficially successful or that they are happy/ stable?
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Wasnt planned ofc, I dont know many people that want kids at 21 . But once it happened we decided to go through with it and we also had means so made the decision easier. I never felt like I was missing out on something, seemed natural to slot into dads role. Other parents would have always thought I was her brother at playground 
. I'll turn 39 this year, my daughter 18 and Im shipping her off to college.
. But once it happened we decided to go through with it and we also had means so made the decision easier. I never felt like I was missing out on something, seemed natural to slot into dads role. Other parents would have always thought I was her brother at playground . I'll turn 39 this year, my daughter 18 and Im shipping her off to college.