Good question. I don't know...it kinda took months of what he termed "dating" and I termed "hanging out" to agree to even be his girlfriend because I wasn't interested in a relationship. I wonder if the married people have any advice on how do you know you're not making a big fat mistake?
Honestly, I was never 100% sure, but then again my last relationship was so fucked up that I was always going to be a little apprehensive about other guys. But I definitely don't regret it. I know some people complain that they grow more distant to their spouse after marriage, but for me it's been the opposite. We've grown closer and can be more genuine with each other, which is something I really appreciate. No more worries whether or not you're impressing the other person enough so they stick around. Though there can also be downsides to that, as getting too comfortable can end up being a negative thing too.
My situation was also a little different, since we're from different countries. I had only been with him a matter of months before he proposed, and it ended up being born out of necessity so we wouldn't have to keep flying halfway around the world to see each other. Not saying we didn't also love each other, because we did/do, but I just always imagined myself dating someone for at least a couple years before considering marriage. So normally, I would suggest to not rush into things, I'm just lucky that my case has worked out well.
Yeah, way ahead of you there. Good uh, moment of learning that all was. It's pretty hilarious looking back on it.
Glad you finally came to your senses there.
