Trezegol17

Senior Member
Nov 1, 2006
9,131
Enjoying the vacation very much, the period before it, i've never been so busy like that in my whole life.

Ya, like the Arabs that we are, we're planning a trip to the desert, we're taking with us a couple of four wheel drives, so it should be fun. We're also going to have a barbeque there, camp and spend the night.

As for your plans, well, typical dutch, i'm surprised theres no weed involved? :D
It's good that you're giving yourself some rest,
Ýour plans sounds great aswell :) BBQ is always great and i hope for you there's some girls there too? :)
I'm not a smoker Fred, i grow it but i don't smoke it much.

Aw man my NYE is gonna suck seeing as I have to be at work all day on New Years Day. :depressed
I hope you got 200% Luca?

Sup Amin :)
 

Seven

In bocca al lupo, Fabio.
Jun 25, 2003
39,355
You need to lose this idea very soon, you don't want to eat yourself, and specially if you love her. Like you said, go out, find fuckable ones, best thing to do. Fuck love, nobody deserves to be loved..
Yes and no. Because if I get the idea that it's all her fault, I will get angry. And angry is not good in my case. I have no problem getting over people, unless I am angry, because then I start obsessing. So I try to avoid that. I also don't love her anymore. There are certain things that make me lose that feeling instantly. Lying is one of them. And I don't mean lying in the sense that she cheated because she didn't, but in the sense that she minimalises her own behaviour and acts as if she's been nothing but friendly. In relationships one should always try to look at both sides of the medal, even if one can only try.

That said I do agree with swag. You should try to end things in a civil manner and try to remain friends, but if one party is completely unwilling to do that, there's no sense in trying to win her favour. All of this is rational of course, but seeing as I'm far from rational these days I have simply removed her telephone numbers and her e-mail and defriended her on facebook. After all, why risk the temptation?
 

Seven

In bocca al lupo, Fabio.
Jun 25, 2003
39,355
So I spill out my gut and I get to hear bullshit about some video game and I'm getting angry about it? My fucking god, I'm turning into a bitch. Someone help me.
 

Snoop

Sabet is a nasty virgin
Oct 2, 2001
28,186
Yes and no. Because if I get the idea that it's all her fault, I will get angry. And angry is not good in my case. I have no problem getting over people, unless I am angry, because then I start obsessing. So I try to avoid that. I also don't love her anymore. There are certain things that make me lose that feeling instantly. Lying is one of them. And I don't mean lying in the sense that she cheated because she didn't, but in the sense that she minimalises her own behaviour and acts as if she's been nothing but friendly. In relationships one should always try to look at both sides of the medal, even if one can only try.

That said I do agree with swag. You should try to end things in a civil manner and try to remain friends, but if one party is completely unwilling to do that, there's no sense in trying to win her favour. All of this is rational of course, but seeing as I'm far from rational these days I have simply removed her telephone numbers and her e-mail and defriended her on facebook. After all, why risk the temptation?
but she managed to anger you, I kinda have some idea on what are you going thru, if you really don't love her, then there is no point in thinking of anything about her, to fix something or to try staying friends, but it seems you did and you still do Love.

Never ever blame yourself, that feeling is terrible, I know. It went wrong, didn't work, if you think about it this way, easier to forget I guess. Love is ugly, I am telling you. Get laid soon, and find new ones. And never care about them. not all of them deserve.
 

Seven

In bocca al lupo, Fabio.
Jun 25, 2003
39,355
I'd try to be more helpful, but I actually have no useful advice.
No worries.

but she managed to anger you, I kinda have some idea on what are you going thru, if you really don't love her, then there is no point in thinking of anything about her, to fix something or to try staying friends, but it seems you did and you still do Love.

Never ever blame yourself, that feeling is terrible, I know. It went wrong, didn't work, if you think about it this way, easier to forget I guess. Love is ugly, I am telling you. Get laid soon, and find new ones. And never care about them. not all of them deserve.
No, man, it's not love. But I have a hard time forgetting about people. I wouldn't want to be with her anymore, but oddly enough deep down I do want people to like me. Well, people that I like, or used to like, that is. We'll see how it goes. If she tries to contact me in a couple of days or weeks she might deserve to be my friend. Right now she doesn't and I'm not going to talk to her myself.

Also another thing that has saddened me over the years is my capacity to hurt people. With words obviously. I realise that with friends or your girlfriend you're supposed to fight every now and then. It happens. But when other people fight they aim to miss, if you understand what I mean. They insult people, but they make sure they don't say that one thing that will really hurt the other person. But that's not how I do things unfortunately. When someone insults me, I get cruel. I aim to kill. And it's sad because two hours later my feelings will probably have changed, it's just that there's this moment in which I am capable of saying virtually anything. And by God, it has made a lot of people, a lot of girls, resent me over the years :D.

I guess that, more than anything, this is about me. It's not really about her. She's just a girl. But it looks as if I'm looking for redemption.
 

Trezegol17

Senior Member
Nov 1, 2006
9,131
amin? :lol:...well just played command and conquer generals zero hour with some friends...now thinkng of going shoppings for nye...what about you guys?
Typo Curva :D

@7 sorry man ,wat is er nou precies gebeurd dan, volgde het niet zo want ik dacht je gaat vast door naar de volgende maar blijkbaar voelde je toch iets meer voor haar dan je dacht?
 

Seven

In bocca al lupo, Fabio.
Jun 25, 2003
39,355
Typo Curva :D

@7 sorry man ,wat is er nou precies gebeurd dan, volgde het niet zo want ik dacht je gaat vast door naar de volgende maar blijkbaar voelde je toch iets meer voor haar dan je dacht?
Mja, we waren een maand of vijf samen. Nu niet extreem veel, maar toch ook niet echt weinig. Zeker niet naar mijn normen. We hadden nog een paar keer afgesproken, een paar keer seks gehad ook. En dan nog wat heen en weer gestuurd met Kerstmis. Enfin, we waren wel uit elkaar en het stond ook wel vast dat we niet meer samen gingen zijn, maar het leek er toch op uit te komen dat we goede vrienden zouden blijven. En plots verandert ze helemaal van mening en negeert ze mij. Wat pijn doet natuurlijk en wat ervoor zorgde dat ik een aantal best domme dingen stuurde. Nu is het ondertussen natuurlijk één grote knoeiboel geworden. Wat mij dan stoort in die dingen is dat ik van een nette oplossing houd. Nu gaan twee mensen elkaar hatend uiteen en dat zint me niet.
 

Snoop

Sabet is a nasty virgin
Oct 2, 2001
28,186
No worries.



No, man, it's not love. But I have a hard time forgetting about people. I wouldn't want to be with her anymore, but oddly enough deep down I do want people to like me. Well, people that I like, or used to like, that is. We'll see how it goes. If she tries to contact me in a couple of days or weeks she might deserve to be my friend. Right now she doesn't and I'm not going to talk to her myself.
You are mad at her, you probably hate her now, but once she calls you will forget everything, I know this feeling :D

We are probably different than others, I can't be an ass and give you advises, but only sharing my experiences with you, it started this way with me too, and didn't end good, if you can erase her from your memory, do it!

Also another thing that has saddened me over the years is my capacity to hurt people. With words obviously. I realise that with friends or your girlfriend you're supposed to fight every now and then. It happens. But when other people fight they aim to miss, if you understand what I mean. They insult people, but they make sure they don't say that one thing that will really hurt the other person. But that's not how I do things unfortunately. When someone insults me, I get cruel. I aim to kill. And it's sad because two hours later my feelings will probably have changed, it's just that there's this moment in which I am capable of saying virtually anything. And by God, it has made a lot of people, a lot of girls, resent me over the years :D.

I guess that, more than anything, this is about me. It's not really about her. She's just a girl. But it looks as if I'm looking for redemption.
Reading this is like reading myself, I do hurt people with words too, probably much worse than you, but it doesn't take me that long like yours, I regret it in minutes :d

This was what I was talking about, if you regret on what you did, and if you blame yourself and try to fix the relation, you will eat yourself just like I did. what is done is done, get laid soon Andries :D
 

Trezegol17

Senior Member
Nov 1, 2006
9,131
Hmm ja ik herken deze situatie man, vrouwen kunnen het bloed onder je nagels vandaan halen waardoor je dingen doet en zegt die je niet meent, heb je haar al gevraagd voor een 1op1 gesprek en dan het liefste ergens publiekelijk zodat je je zelfbeheersing in toom houd en dus niet in de verleiding komt om tegen haar teschreeuwen. Hatend uit elkaar gaan is nooit leuk maar volgens mij heb je er zowat bijna alles aan gedaan om dit te voorkomen?
 

Seven

In bocca al lupo, Fabio.
Jun 25, 2003
39,355
Yeah, because you're not good. I mean, you try to be as good as you can possibly be, but certain things.. Well, she was definitely right about one thing: I'm used to getting what I want and when I don't get what I want, I can be childish about it. Who knew CR7 and me had something in common?
 

Snoop

Sabet is a nasty virgin
Oct 2, 2001
28,186
Yeah, because you're not good. I mean, you try to be as good as you can possibly be, but certain things.. Well, she was definitely right about one thing: I'm used to getting what I want and when I don't get what I want, I can be childish about it. Who knew CR7 and me had something in common?
Here comes the stupid question, what is your horoscope sign(did I say it right?)? Not that I believe, but at least don't say it is Taurus.
 

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