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[ALC]

Anyone have any advice on confronting super aggressive coworkers?

Aggressive how?

 

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[X Æ A-12]

Anyone have any advice on confronting super aggressive coworkers?

Sarcasm and wit

Really just patronize the shit out of them until they dont talk to you anymore

 

[Enron]

Aggressive how?

Sarcasm and wit

Really just patronize the shit out of them until they dont talk to you anymore

I meant to write passive aggressive. That Samsung autocorrect.

This guy I'm working with on a survey is always getting upset and making passive aggressive comments over little things all the time.

A couple of examples: Last Thursday we were surveying the old guy's plot of land. Guy let's us in is super nice, says do what you need, but be careful in the garden. My guy immediately starts walking through the garden. I'm like hey man, let's not walk through the garden. He gets upset and proceeds to comment about how I have to always be happy, and no one else matters for like two hours. This happens like every time we go out.

Even showing up to the office on the morning he makes little comments like "oh, you're finally here" when I'm not late.

Dude is pretty toxic to be around. He flipped out this morning and passive aggressively refused to come out in the field. So not only is he super annoying, but he's slowing the work down.

 

[Mark]

Have you tried the CALMA bit with him?

 

[X Æ A-12]

How long has this been going on? Maybe hes just having a bad month?

But if its long lasting i just wouldnt interact with him when hes like that and if you have to, dont take any shit whatsoever.

In my experience appeasing people like that doesnt work. They will only get worse if they think they can get away with treating you poorly

 

[GordoDeCentral]

Deneb. If this way of thinking is common in The US, it explains your massive amount og school shootings.

Last time you listed the availability of guns as the reason, but no matter, you clearly have no idea what this debate is about if you bring this up, it has nothing to do with what is being discussed.

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I meant to write passive aggressive. That Samsung autocorrect.

This guy I'm working with on a survey is always getting upset and making passive aggressive comments over little things all the time.

A couple of examples: Last Thursday we were surveying the old guy's plot of land. Guy let's us in is super nice, says do what you need, but be careful in the garden. My guy immediately starts walking through the garden. I'm like hey man, let's not walk through the garden. He gets upset and proceeds to comment about how I have to always be happy, and no one else matters for like two hours. This happens like every time we go out.

Even showing up to the office on the morning he makes little comments like "oh, you're finally here" when I'm not late.

Dude is pretty toxic to be around. He flipped out this morning and passive aggressively refused to come out in the field. So not only is he super annoying, but he's slowing the work down.

I would confront him head on, straight up look him in the eye and tell him to tone it down or all future communication between you 2 will be via email. They will show him passive aggressive.

 

[ALC]

What Gordo said. Tell him that that’s not how you interact with people and that if the guy wants you to treat him like a grownup, he should act like one.

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But be nice, firm, and professional. Don’t raise your voice and make it clear that you don’t have time nor patience for that sort of behavior.

 

[Maddy]

Anyone have any advice on confronting super aggressive coworkers?

Outperform him, become his boss, make him cuckold, fire him.

 

[Seven]

Last time you listed the availability of guns as the reason, but no matter, you clearly have no idea what this debate is about if you bring this up, it has nothing to do with what is being discussed.

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I would confront him head on, straight up look him in the eye and tell him to tone it down or all future communication between you 2 will be via email. They will show him passive aggressive.

I've been in similar situations. What worked best me for was simply to tell them to stop doing it. Inevitably they'd ask 'do what?'. Because that's how they work. Don't go along with this. Don't explain what you mean. Just tell them to stop, they'll know.

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[GordoDeCentral]

I've been in similar situations. What worked best me for was simply to tell them to stop doing it. Inevitably they'd ask 'do what?'. Because that's how they work. Don't go along with this. Don't explain what you mean. Just tell them to stop, they'll know.

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Yep they are passive aggressive because they can't stand confrontation so hit them there

 

[Monty]

I meant to write passive aggressive. That Samsung autocorrect.

This guy I'm working with on a survey is always getting upset and making passive aggressive comments over little things all the time.

A couple of examples: Last Thursday we were surveying the old guy's plot of land. Guy let's us in is super nice, says do what you need, but be careful in the garden. My guy immediately starts walking through the garden. I'm like hey man, let's not walk through the garden. He gets upset and proceeds to comment about how I have to always be happy, and no one else matters for like two hours. This happens like every time we go out.

Even showing up to the office on the morning he makes little comments like "oh, you're finally here" when I'm not late.

Dude is pretty toxic to be around. He flipped out this morning and passive aggressively refused to come out in the field. So not only is he super annoying, but he's slowing the work down.

My 2 cents...dont tell him how to behave as has been suggested...merely tell him how you feel about it e.g. be specific - "you did X, which made me feel like Y and I didnt like it and dont want to feel that way"

And then if he asks what why and delves further then you can suggest "maybe you could do Z instead"

i.e. be specific, dont make assumptions on why he is doing it, and if progress- give actionable feedback

 

[Fr3sh]

I meant to write passive aggressive. That Samsung autocorrect.

This guy I'm working with on a survey is always getting upset and making passive aggressive comments over little things all the time.

A couple of examples: Last Thursday we were surveying the old guy's plot of land. Guy let's us in is super nice, says do what you need, but be careful in the garden. My guy immediately starts walking through the garden. I'm like hey man, let's not walk through the garden. He gets upset and proceeds to comment about how I have to always be happy, and no one else matters for like two hours. This happens like every time we go out.

Even showing up to the office on the morning he makes little comments like "oh, you're finally here" when I'm not late.

Dude is pretty toxic to be around. He flipped out this morning and passive aggressively refused to come out in the field. So not only is he super annoying, but he's slowing the work down.

Confront him professionally, if that don't work shit in his boots, worked for me.

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Seriously though, just avoid working with him if he the confrontation didn't work or he just doesn't want to do better.

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Yep they are passive aggressive because they can't stand confrontation so hit them there

 

[Enron]

I confronted him. He denied and blamed me. I told him we both know what I'm talking about, it stops now. He said whatever. Then I asked if he was refusing to go to the field tomorrow or should we make plans. We made plans.

Latinos can be such a pain to work with.

 

[Klovn]

I confronted him. He denied and blamed me. I told him we both know what I'm talking about, it stops now. He said whatever. Then I asked if he was refusing to go to the field tomorrow or should we make plans. We made plans.

Latinos can be such a pain to work with.

tell him you will vote for donald next term, if he doesn't start behaving

 

[X Æ A-12]

My 2 cents...dont tell him how to behave as has been suggested...merely tell him how you feel about it e.g. be specific - "you did X, which made me feel like Y and I didnt like it and dont want to feel that way"

And then if he asks what why and delves further then you can suggest "maybe you could do Z instead"

i.e. be specific, dont make assumptions on why he is doing it, and if progress- give actionable feedback

found the H.R. shill

 

[Fr3sh]

tell him you will vote for donald next term, if he doesn't start behaving

 

[X Æ A-12]

Latinos can be such a pain to work with.

They are a passionate (and sometimes moody) people

 

[Enron]

They are a passionate (and sometimes moody) people

Macho and passive aggressive at the same time. If I didn't work with the guy all the time I would probably find it all amusing.

 

[GordoDeCentral]

My 2 cents...dont tell him how to behave as has been suggested...merely tell him how you feel about it e.g. be specific - "you did X, which made me feel like Y and I didnt like it and dont want to feel that way"

And then if he asks what why and delves further then you can suggest "maybe you could do Z instead"

i.e. be specific, dont make assumptions on why he is doing it, and if progress- give actionable feedback

feelings? wtf is wrong with men these days, it's not a matter of feelings, it's a professional setting he definitely has to behave accordingly.

 

[Bianconero_Aus]

Confront him professionally, if that don't work shit in his boots, worked for me.

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Seriously though, just avoid working with him if he the confrontation didn't work or he just doesn't want to do better.

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