From a distance you don’t have any information necessary for forming a valid opinion or giving proper advice tbh. Seeking advice on a potential relationship with someone you don’t know much is understandable, but seeking advice on a relationship you have been in for a long time is just bizarre. There’s only one universal rule that applies to everyone and every relationship: respect yourself. Outside of that, everyone who is giving advice is simply extrapolating.
Unfortunately I disagree. We all like to believe we are special and so are our relationships. The truth is they're not. Abusive relationships generally all follow the same pattern. And this pattern is usually a lot more obvious for those looking at it from a distance. It makes sense too, because at our core, most of us are very much the same.
If for example you decide to start a relationship with a girl who cheated on her last boyfriend with you, the outcome of that relationship is pretty much set in stone.
