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swag

swag

L'autista
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#121
Sep 23, 2003
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#121
I don't see there being anything wrong with wanting casual sex when you want it, especially if we're talking about consenting adults here.

But take it from someone who has been with his gf/wife for 10 years now (and she's still the bomb). It's not for everyone, but you can get to a point where it becomes painfully obvious that the cheap fling/thrill sex is little more than scratching an itch and then you're done with it. And after you've had a meal at La Tour d'Argent, it makes the rest of the stuff seem like you've been subsiding on McJunk food all those years.
 

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Ian

Ian

CULE
#123
Jul 12, 2002
5,666
#123
++ [ originally posted by swag ] ++
I don't see there being anything wrong with wanting casual sex when you want it, especially if we're talking about consenting adults here.

But take it from someone who has been with his gf/wife for 10 years now (and she's still the bomb). It's not for everyone, but you can get to a point where it becomes painfully obvious that the cheap fling/thrill sex is little more than scratching an itch and then you're done with it. And after you've had a meal at La Tour d'Argent, it makes the rest of the stuff seem like you've been subsiding on McJunk food all those years.
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Excellently put.
 

nedved34

Senior Member
#124
Oct 3, 2002
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#124
++ [ originally posted by Nicole ] ++
Its no-one's business of whether someone wants to take drugs or not
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I think I explained my toughts clearly about drugs and drug users in my previous posts,that I have no problem with them..


and you dont have the right to talk about someone when they at least had the nerves to post all the things they done.
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I have my right to tell my opinions here I guess
 
Tom

Tom

The DJ
#126
Oct 30, 2001
11,726
#126
++ [ originally posted by Ian ] ++
I don't know mate, I don't think that much thought goes into it. I mean, when I used to shop myself around (if you know what I mean), it had more to do with alchohol and hormones than conscious thought. I mean, I would wake up and say to myself, "Huh, I wonder how this happened?" Which is not to say that I didn't remember the events of the previous evening but rather I couldn't think of my motivation to do any of the things that I'd done...
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Really? Thats where we differ then, I've not to my knowledge ever ended up in bed with a random without having set out that night with the sole intention of achieving just that. When you're in a relationship (wouldn't know about marriage.. but I won't go into that) you are generally fairly secure that you're going to get some action somewhere down the line..and I mean regular action not just a one off. Which to me at this point in time is the only plus I can come up with for being in a relationship.

Outside of a relationship it doesn't tend to take long for the tension to build up.. which is when you become more and more in the mood for a one night stand and that's where you end up. I don't think it has ever happened just completely without forethought.
 
Ian

Ian

CULE
#127
Jul 12, 2002
5,666
#127
++ [ originally posted by Tom ] ++
Really? Thats where we differ then, I've not to my knowledge ever ended up in bed with a random without having set out that night with the sole intention of achieving just that. When you're in a relationship (wouldn't know about marriage.. but I won't go into that) you are generally fairly secure that you're going to get some action somewhere down the line..and I mean regular action not just a one off. Which to me at this point in time is the only plus I can come up with for being in a relationship.

Outside of a relationship it doesn't tend to take long for the tension to build up.. which is when you become more and more in the mood for a one night stand and that's where you end up. I don't think it has ever happened just completely without forethought.
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Well then, I think that just goes to prove that between you and me, you are the more manly man. :LOL:
 

Layce Erayce

Senior Member
#132
Aug 11, 2002
9,116
#132
++ [ originally posted by Nicole ] ++
The things you've done in your past make you the person you are now
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As right as you are, theres something to be said for the smarter ones who learned quick.

For everybody here, talking about all the bad things you did is just a way to gain social status. Thats why the bad things they do are only what people are impressed by. I've done bad things. I've done things with worse consequences than most here. (Except maybe Rickenbacker. Hey Ian) But many of those things arent "cool" at all. And I didnt do them for fun I did it because I was in a horrible situation. It wasnt cool or fun or interesting, it was terrible and I'd never wish it on anyone.

You kids are really sheltered from danger and insecurity. Society has sheltered you *****es so much that you are tired of safety. You only learn to appreciate society and morals and law when you find yourself in a terrible situation. When you wish cops were around, when you wish those people had morals or followed laws, when you wish all of a sudden that someone would be there to save you- your grandparents, the government, God.

The smart ones learn quick. When you start seeing people around you disappear one by one- suicides, accidental deaths, prison, hospitalised, drug od's etc you realise that if you keep doing risky things your time will come.

The truly bad are those who have learned to validate themselves rather than those who seek validation from others. I know 10 years from now where I will be. Then I will turn around and look at Darren, Ari, Krystle, Eric and the others and be glad I didnt turn out like them. I wouldnt live in depression, in poverty, in dysfunctional, abusive relationships, commit suicide, rot in prison, die of an overdose, or collect social security.
 
jaecole

jaecole

Senior Member
#134
Apr 7, 2005
3,017
#134
++ [ originally posted by Layce Erayce ] ++


As right as you are, theres something to be said for the smarter ones who learned quick.

For everybody here, talking about all the bad things you did is just a way to gain social status. Thats why the bad things they do are only what people are impressed by. I've done bad things. I've done things with worse consequences than most here. (Except maybe Rickenbacker. Hey Ian) But many of those things arent "cool" at all. And I didnt do them for fun I did it because I was in a horrible situation. It wasnt cool or fun or interesting, it was terrible and I'd never wish it on anyone.

You kids are really sheltered from danger and insecurity. Society has sheltered you *****es so much that you are tired of safety. You only learn to appreciate society and morals and law when you find yourself in a terrible situation. When you wish cops were around, when you wish those people had morals or followed laws, when you wish all of a sudden that someone would be there to save you- your grandparents, the government, God.

The smart ones learn quick. When you start seeing people around you disappear one by one- suicides, accidental deaths, prison, hospitalised, drug od's etc you realise that if you keep doing risky things your time will come.

The truly bad are those who have learned to validate themselves rather than those who seek validation from others. I know 10 years from now where I will be. Then I will turn around and look at Darren, Ari, Krystle, Eric and the others and be glad I didnt turn out like them. I wouldnt live in depression, in poverty, in dysfunctional, abusive relationships, commit suicide, rot in prison, die of an overdose, or collect social security.
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People make things too simple online.. Pitty.
 

Nicole

Senior Member
#135
Sep 16, 2004
7,561
#135
Personally I think it takes a better person to be able to say that they've done those things and been through them.

For example drugs. Its extremely easy to have an opinion on drugs, but you can really only see 1 side of the coin, if you've never tried them. Now I aint saying anyone should infact, its probably the stupiest thing you can do, but for those who have done them, and who came through it they have a more objective opinion. Because they know what it is like, its so easy to take the moral high-ground without having a clue of what its like to be on drugs.
 
jaecole

jaecole

Senior Member
#139
Apr 7, 2005
3,017
#139
Well i'm pretty sure Erik, Claire etc were in a 'situation' aswell, I doubt someone becomes an addict for fun. And how is that possibly good for a status? Atleast were I come from, people beat the shit out of those people, people hate and refuse to speak to such people.
 
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