Cron, I would recommend taking a look at the Lexus CTHybrid, in case you haven't done so already:
http://www.lexus.com/models/CTh/
I doesn't have the performance specs of say BMW 1-series but is a high-tech car with great fuel economy and powerful enough for cars in this class (I'd think going for this class of car means performance isn't too high on your list). And it's a Lexus - epitome of quality and reliability - so you can't go wrong with it.
Not sure if it's readily available in Europe/Greece but well worth considering, imo.
I ve been driving Toyotas all my life, even now (a 2lit RAV 4) and i apreciate their quality and reliability.
My father is a driver instructor, who is also trained in car enginering and he has convinced me of this with sound argumends, that came after 2-3decade long experiences.
I cant afford not even the cheapest Lexus of the ones available in Greece atm.
So i guess thats out of the picture as well, i ll keep an eye for this though.
As for performance, i want to make some long driving trips to Italy, i have been postponing for quite a long time now.
80% of my needs is an urban car that can carry the needs of a young family and the last couple of years of a single man

That must occasionally make a 4-7h long trip to the other part of my country, in my home town.
The national street over there only has one band and a half and there a lot of places when you must attempt an overtake with limited visibility, due to many low speed curbes and have to rely on good brakes, handling and great gear swifting. (Giulietta's strong points)
I dont need a racer, but i need a car faster than the average moving obstacle i ll confront, to make these overtakes safe and stressless.
I also make some occassional a 1-2h high speed trips to reach the sea and i would like this to be as sort as possible, so i am savor the limited free time.
So great handling, a 0-100km in under 9secs and a max speed at 220km/h is exactly what i need, no more, no less. Thankfully in city, both cars have options to limit fuel consumption.