Well you've got to realize that a university like Virginia Tech doesn't prioritize students feelings, emotions, or problems. I don't think any major university in the world does. The whole point of education at a place like Virginia Tech is to weed out those who can't cut it. Especially in the engineering program which is one of the most competitive programs in the nation. I'm not saying to let the professors off the hook here, in fact not at all. You need to realize that these professors are not really equipped to handle students with special needs. To expect compassion in such a rigorous and competitive setting is a bit like hoping for sunshine in the middle of the night. It's not likely to happen.
I'm not saying that the parents should have seen their kid killing people in the future because he went to a big school. If you think I've said that then you are completely over analyzing my posts. I'm just saying sending any kid with a special need, especially one of this magnitude where the kid could stop all communication because of social pressures, isn't the greatest catalyst for success. There are schools that do go out of their way to help people.
I don't think anyone is saying the death of 30 people is nothing to worry about. If anything it speaks volumes about the way Virginia Tech handles students with special needs. It's hardly a reflection of society as a whole. Considering not everyone bullies and not everyone condones it. But as of right now it is a part of life. It shouldn't happen, but it does. It will probably always happen on some level, no matter what country or era you live in. There will always be assholes.
Really the only thing we can do is work with kids to be able to deal with it. Joining clubs, sports teams, after school programs are constructive ways to avoid bullying and make friends.