What Are You Doing Right Now? (186 Viewers)

[Sheik Yerbouti]

You say that's not it, yet your own post clearly contradicts that statement.

Maybe I can't explain it that well, but trust me.

Of course you're fucking built for relationships. Everyone is.

Nah, not everyone is. Not a successful one anyway.

And you don't have to lead or do god knows what. You just need to talk to women and have fun with them. No need to put pressure on every single interaction.

Of course you have to lead! I don't know how things work in Belgium, but here the men *always* have to lead. I've been talking to women and having fun with them for years. But it's never enough.

 

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[.zero]

I had my daily 2. And 2 cups of tea.

Now it's time to eat tons of food and watch Silence.

That film brings back memories of Shogun

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0080274/

 

[Enron]

I don't expect to have "everything" on a plate or have everything figured out. But let me put it this way. I get what you're saying. Relationships work a certain way, and both men and the women have a role to play. Men are the ones who always gotta make the first move, be the initiators and all of that shit. All y'all do that so very well and truly deserve the illustrious experiences you've had. My problem is that I cannot play that role. I'm just not wired that way. I've tried to follow all of the advice I see here and ones given by friends and the internet. I've seen all of it and I really can't do it all. I used to feel like I was swimming up the river when I tried to do that. Felt like I was not being myself and just being someone else and following someone else's instructions, and I never liked that. The older I got and the more I tried, it just got worse. Like a fish out of water trying to climb a tree. There's just something wrong, or some disconnect due to which I just can't be like the rest of the menfolk.

I know you're gonna say that this is all BS, or that I'm overthinking it and I shouldn't. But I don't see any other way. I've always been an outcast and I have a feeling deep down inside that I'm not meant for relationships and that it's just futile to try. I obviously don't want it to be true cos I like anyone else have the evolutionary need to fuck and reproduce, but this is who I am and I need to accept it and work with it. I know it's just a matter of time before I completely lose interest in it all. This probably doesn't make sense to you all, but I see things very clearly.

This might surprise you but a lot of people feel similar to you. And most people don't actually like approaching women. It can be uncomfortable and you almost always feel dumb for a bit. But the more you go for it, the easier it gets, though it is never "easy".

That's just not only with women but other facets in life. The more you put yourself out there the more you grow.

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Thanks for empathizing, E. When I'm not whining like a bitch, I realize that having a growth mindset is especially important while dating. I'm proud of the progress I've made, but I still got a long way to go.

 

[Enron]

Thanks for empathizing, E. When I'm not whining like a bitch, I realize that having a growth mindset is especially important while dating. I'm proud of the progress I've made, but I still got a long way to go.

We all do.

 

[.zero]

Chicks love attention tho

not the creepy, sleazy, staring, groping, kind of attention just to be clear

 

[AFL_ITALIA]

In majority of cases it's just pure fear IMO. Thinking way too much, planning way too much etc. In the end even if they end up in bed chances are high of no boner because of stress.

I have one friend who's really, really fucked up. And it's not even mocking. He's a really great guy but he's just retarded when it comes to girls. Not even retarded, I WISH he was bad, but he doesn't even try cause of that fear. I seriously don't know how to help him as he won't even talk about it much, he just changes the subject. Any idea?

This is me. I don't know this guy, his motivations, or his thought process, but I have always struggled with talking to people in general. Add this extra layer onto it, and it just seems impossible. For me, I realized that the only person that can fix my situation is ME, no matter how hopeless it may seem in my head. I'm beginning to try to change that, but it's the most difficult thing I've ever had to do in my life by a large margin. The best I could say to you is to just convince him that it's not impossible, despite what he may think. Legit 90% of it is down to just solely confidence, so all he needs is that and the rest will come naturally. Don't lie and say it'll be easy though, especially at first (holy FUCK am I unreasonably bad at something as simple as talking to another human being), but help him to realize that with a little practice that it is highly possible. Hopefully once that idea is planted in his head, he will begin to think it over and come to the same conclusion. Sorry I can't be of more help, but I'm still trying to get there myself.

@Sheik Yerbouti
I fully say just go. If I were in your situation previously, I'd probably be making the same excuses as well, and then hate myself for it afterwards.

 

[.zero]

Just ease your pants down

 

[IliveForJuve]

I KNOW they won't. Which is why I fuckin' hate dating!!! I'm shit at reading the "signs" and non-verbal cues. I don't have the patience to figure it out.

And no, don't think it's "exciting" when you don't know all the answers. More like anxiety-inducing!

Seems to me that you're scared.

Everyone feels fear at an unfamiliar situation. It is normal and natural. The fear only goes away when the situation becomes familiar. Which is why you need to go out with some chicas.

If you don’t push through the fear, you’ll be extremely vulnerable and paranoid. Sure, you can back off and not approach, and then you’ll never get rejected. But then you’ll be alone, always a sad loser who never got laid.

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Seems to me that you're scared.

Everyone feels fear at an unfamiliar situation. It is normal and natural. The fear only goes away when the situation becomes familiar. Which is why you need to go out with some chicas.

If you don’t push through the fear, you’ll be extremely vulnerable and paranoid. Sure, you can back off and not approach, and then you’ll never get rejected. But then you’ll be alone, always a sad loser who never got laid.

I'm gonna become more familiar with this cutie from work this weekend.

 

[InterMerda]

I'm gonna become more familiar with this cutie from work this weekend.

Be agressive. Don't get familiar, just get the fucking pussy man. Maybe you need a little bit of training before taking the leap. Start with ugly hoes from tinder.

Edit:
Is it OK to date your second cousin or is it weird?

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Be agressive. Don't get familiar, just get the fucking pussy man. Maybe you need a little bit of training before taking the leap. Start with ugly hoes from tinder.

Edit:
Is it OK to date your second cousin or is it weird?

I never went below a 1st cousin. Wasn't that weird. 2nd should be a breeze.

 

[.zero]

Strange

 

[Quetzalcoatl]

So there's a name for it. Can't stop picking my beard

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trichotillomania

 

[DAiDEViL]

Dating cousins @Fr3sh

Is it some sort of arranged marriage between two noble families?

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Dating cousins

Is it some sort of arranged marriage between two noble families?

Just keeping it in the family.

 

[InterMerda]

Dating cousins

Is it some sort of arranged marriage between two noble families?

Not really. I'm dating my 2nd cousin cause I like her (love her too) and she likes me back. Having sex with your cousin is better than regular sex, the forbidden part of it makes it something else

 

[Quetzalcoatl]

Wow... ok

 

[Nzoric]

Not really. I'm dating my 2nd cousin cause I like her (probably love her too) and she likes me back. Having sex with your cousin is better than regular sex, the forbidden part of it makes it something else

@Klin is our experd when it comes to interbreeding.

On a separate note, first time I haven't been able to find a torrent of a show I'd like to watch. Anyone tried checking out Fighter: Idris Elba?

 

[.zero]

I'm so trill