Maddy

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Jul 10, 2009
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So I'm a volunteer for Red Cross Denmark. I visit a lonely soul once a week for a couple of hours. Just havin' a chat and a cup of Coffee.

The old man I'm currently appointed to, is the most warm and caring person I've met in a long time. So sad. He has 3 Children and 7 grandchildren. Yet see non of them. According to himself due to a nasty divorce from his ex-wives who made the children choose between him and her, and they choose her.

How can an entire family just leave a close relative like that behind? So sad.
 

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So I'm a volunteer for Red Cross Denmark. I visit a lonely soul once a week for a couple of hours. Just havin' a chat and a cup of Coffee.

The old man I'm currently appointed to, is the most warm and caring person I've met in a long time. So sad. He has 3 Children and 7 grandchildren. Yet see non of them. According to himself due to a nasty divorce from his ex-wives who made the children choose between him and her, and they choose her.

How can an entire family just leave a close relative like that behind? So sad.

one of my uncles is going through the same thing, women can be really evil when they dont get their way
 

swag

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So I'm a volunteer for Red Cross Denmark. I visit a lonely soul once a week for a couple of hours. Just havin' a chat and a cup of Coffee.

The old man I'm currently appointed to, is the most warm and caring person I've met in a long time. So sad. He has 3 Children and 7 grandchildren. Yet see non of them. According to himself due to a nasty divorce from his ex-wives who made the children choose between him and her, and they choose her.

How can an entire family just leave a close relative like that behind? So sad.
Awesome. I've been a long-time Red Cross volunteer in the U.S., though I am years out of practice. Disaster services mostly, but I got to see a lot of the organization. (Little-known fact: I also co-founded the American Red Cross national Web site back in the early 1990s.) So it's cool when I come across people who have been through other national chapters, etc. Sadly, Americans are too politically loaded to do anything with the IRC -- so that's what Canadians and Swiss are for.

Unfortunately, it's not just grandpa who is suffering from that situation. The kids/grandkids are likely getting completely shortchanged too. Amazing how many lives can get f'ed up, and for generations, because of one or two people.

But cool that you're there to hang with him once in a while.
 

Hængebøffer

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Jun 4, 2009
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So I'm a volunteer for Red Cross Denmark. I visit a lonely soul once a week for a couple of hours. Just havin' a chat and a cup of Coffee.

The old man I'm currently appointed to, is the most warm and caring person I've met in a long time. So sad. He has 3 Children and 7 grandchildren. Yet see non of them. According to himself due to a nasty divorce from his ex-wives who made the children choose between him and her, and they choose her.

How can an entire family just leave a close relative like that behind? So sad.
That's why I hate most adults.

one of my uncles is going through the same thing, women can be really evil when they dont get their way
This often goes both ways.
 

Maddy

Oracle of Copenhagen
Jul 10, 2009
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one of my uncles is going through the same thing, women can be really evil when they dont get their way
:agree:

Awesome. I've been a long-time Red Cross volunteer in the U.S., though I am years out of practice. Disaster services mostly, but I got to see a lot of the organization. (Little-known fact: I also co-founded the American Red Cross national Web site back in the early 1990s.) So it's cool when I come across people who have been through other national chapters, etc. Sadly, Americans are too politically loaded to do anything with the IRC -- so that's what Canadians and Swiss are for.

Unfortunately, it's not just grandpa who is suffering from that situation. The kids/grandkids are likely getting completely shortchanged too. Amazing how many lives can get f'ed up, and for generations, because of one or two people.

But cool that you're there to hang with him once in a while.
Ye, it's a situation with many victims. But awesome story, swag! Good on ya :)

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That's why I hate most adults.

This often goes both ways.
Women are by far the worst.
 

Osman

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Aug 30, 2002
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This often goes both ways.
Women are more stubborn in holding personal grudges for ages and making things become either me or them sitautions, so even if the granpa may be in the more wrong initially in that scenario, I'm not suprised it was isolation and total cut-off as the solution chosen by the grandma in this case. Seen enough similar scenarios by aunties/female cousins or friends who have the smallest arguments and turn the whole thing into years long feud of not talking/seeing eachother and trying to make others pick sides etc. Very rarely do I see the same approach with male acquantancies or relatives (if they dont like eachother they just avoid it eachother, not make a huge hoopla over it).
 

swag

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Without trying to be sexist in my thinking, I honestly don't know a single guy who has been through a messy divorce or whatever that got to the level of banning people's existence for life and holding intense grudges like that. I do know a few women who have.

Of course, guys can be complete assholes. But women can be too. Just that the guys don't seem to hold on to it longer ... they apparently either go murder-suicide or nothing.

So my small sample set supports a little of this.
 

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