What Are You Doing Right Now? (254 Viewers)

[swag]

Well my current girlfriend has broken one of my big rules as shes three years younger than me - I have, not through choice really, only ever dated girls that were at least a year older than me, my previous two gfs were 3 & 4 years and I still felt more mature than them. But Ania is different

Love has little to do with age. I ain't talking all Harold & Maude here. But when you're younger, you put a lot of stupid rules on who you will or won't go out with that make absolutely no sense by the time you're 30.

Well let's say you still have some work to do to reach full emotional stability, but you're making progress.

Martin is the foot fokkin' master at this.

Yep, but on important issues - Im not gonna get in someones face in restaurant if they aren't smilling when they bring me food or if my coffee was 1oC off temp, but when I see stuff like racism being promoted or sexism/objectivism by either sex, the I will say something about it. I am probably the most politically correct person in the world , but only because I a humanist, i love humanity - for all its idiots and genuis's and I hate seeing divides being generated/perpetuated that just don''t exist. Its only of the reasons I so vehemently oppose 'sovereign states'.

RACIST!!!

At this point in my life, and it took a long time to get here, I would say that I value most a man who is kind, warm and funny. Someone that I could feel absolutely comfortable with, you can vomit in front of them, fart in front of them, etc. Kindness is the most important trait, because you can always build a relationship from there.

My perfect guy can't exist, because he would be all of those things, but still maintain a sense of intrigue that you lose once you enter into a comfortable long-term relationship.

Whaoh. Kate has reached a real emotional maturity plateau there. Good for you.

This is why I developed an attitude long ago that women in their 30s rock compared to women in their 20s. They're past their insecurities. They know more about what they want. It's very cool. (And no, there's no MILFing in this. (

Ironic that the topic is about relationship and I am sitting in the same class as my idiot ex as we speak.

:sick:

I got shit. I tried everything, gave my best, she just won't let that guy go.

You've heard it a million times before and I don't matter. But run, do not walk, from that situation. There is absolutely no way you can win that. Even when you think you might win her -- say if the guy steps out of the picture -- you won't in the end. There's a lot of baggage in there right now that ain't going away.

I just booked an apartment through airbnb. I hope this listing isn't a scam.

They've gotten better after the psychos started hurting their IPO prospects.

She kinda looks like Rihanna.

Cottage cheese thighs and all?

Say, Aaron: how was the Ethiopian food last night?

 

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[ALC]

What's a thing?

Crumble.

yeah, that.

Dare you start this again

, my bad.

I knew Greg would bring up the cottage cheese

 

[icemaη]

My gf's aunt almost caught us having sex, I had to hide under a bed naked. Was pretty fun lol.

Sneaking out the back door, jumping into the neighbour's compound and walking out of their front gate while acting like it's no big deal was pretty fun.

 

[Enron]

Say, Aaron: how was the Ethiopian food last night?

The Ethiopian place is now a Cuban restaurant. So we had Cuban, which I've eaten many times before. Ended up settling on a snapper dish with black beans, rice, and plantains.

 

[Marty]

I had a couple of Glenmorangie after that. That good for you, oh great one!?

That's better

 

[Kate]

Whaoh. Kate has reached a real emotional maturity plateau there. Good for you.

This is why I developed an attitude long ago that women in their 30s rock compared to women in their 20s. They're past their insecurities. They know more about what they want. It's very cool. (And no, there's no MILFing in this. (

I just wish I had the wisdom or the self-discipline to follow that advice all of the time. No matter your age, you're always susceptible to foolishness.

 

[Enron]

I just wish I had the wisdom or the self-discipline to follow that advice all of the time. No matter your age, you're always susceptible to foolishness.

I agree, especially regard women.

 

[swag]

The Ethiopian place is now a Cuban restaurant. So we had Cuban, which I've eaten many times before. Ended up settling on a snapper dish with black beans, rice, and plantains.

I mean, I love Cuban food and all. But what kinda white boy from the 'burbs can swap the two as if they're no different?

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

That's better

I still got a minibar in my room, you know.

 

[swag]

I just wish I had the wisdom or the self-discipline to follow that advice all of the time. No matter your age, you're always susceptible to foolishness.

Yeah, well there is that. We make foolish decisions all our lives. You just hope to get better at it with age.

The corollary in that is -- now pay attention, Dheeraj -- that when people get into their 30s and 40s, the equation for who are the most socially desirable folks sometimes gets completely turned on its head. The cool/hot people in their teens and 20s are suddenly out of vogue, and the late bloomers in their 30s become the hot ticket.

So there is hope for you yet, Sheik.

Here's a real story for you. My best friend, a native of Winnipeg, had this massive crush on the most popular girl in his high school. Prom queen. She didn't give him the time of day. Not like she was actively repulsed by the guy, but he basically didn't exist.

Fast forward 20+ years, and they meet up again on FB. She's been divorced from some douchebag who was cool in his teens and 20s. My friend has stayed single and developed a rather interesting international life with a lot of interests, career ambitions, taking care of himself, etc.

The two are now a massive item and she's all over him like he's the captain of the high school football team now.

You just never know...

 

[Marty]

I still got a minibar in my room, you know.

Nice hehe. Looks like a mini version of my fridge

 

[Lilith]

Valentine's Day is Tuesday so I have just over 48 hours to find a date.

Don't do it. Don't give into the masses.

Love has little to do with age. I ain't talking all Harold & Maude here. But when you're younger, you put a lot of stupid rules on who you will or won't go out with that make absolutely no sense by the time you're 30.

This is so very true!

This is why I developed an attitude long ago that women in their 30s rock compared to women in their 20s. They're past their insecurities. They know more about what they want. It's very cool. (And no, there's no MILFing in this.

Agreed. By that time you have your priorities sorted out I think.

You've heard it a million times before and I don't matter. But run, do not walk, from that situation. There is absolutely no way you can win that. Even when you think you might win her -- say if the guy steps out of the picture -- you won't in the end. There's a lot of baggage in there right now that ain't going away.

I was about to give him the same advice. There are too many fishes in the sea. I know that because you are so into her right now it may seem like she is your be all and end all but give it time and you'll forget all about her and will find the one who is right for you. :smile:

 

[swag]

I still got a minibar in my room, you know.

Find yourself some vermouth and make a nice Negroni. (You've got the gin and Campari.)

 

[Lilith]

I just wish I had the wisdom or the self-discipline to follow that advice all of the time. No matter your age, you're always susceptible to foolishness.

To be human is to err. However, I agree with what he says in the sense that you know yourself better and you know what you want out of life a little more. It doesn't mean we're gonna be perfect all the time or make perfect decisions but we're just that much more informed.

 

[Kate]

Yeah, well there is that. We make foolish decisions all our lives. You just hope to get better at it with age.

The corollary in that is -- now pay attention, Dheeraj -- that when people get into their 30s and 40s, the equation for who are the most socially desirable folks sometimes gets completely turned on its head. The cool/hot people in their teens and 20s are suddenly out of vogue, and the late bloomers in their 30s become the hot ticket.

So there is hope for you yet, Sheik.

Here's a real story for you. My best friend, a native of Winnipeg, had this massive crush on the most popular girl in his high school. Prom queen. She didn't give him the time of day. Not like she was actively repulsed by the guy, but he basically didn't exist.

Fast forward 20+ years, and they meet up again on FB. She's been divorced from some douchebag who was cool in his teens and 20s. My friend has stayed single and developed a rather interesting international life with a lot of interests, career ambitions, taking care of himself, etc.

The two are now a massive item and she's all over him like he's the captain of the high school football team now.

You just never know...

I've noticed that trend for a while now. All of the girls who were pretty and popular in high school just...aren't now. They've either aged badly, or made poor decisions and are a bit hopeless. But the girls who were unpopular, or just awkward, are now quite pretty and interesting (not that they weren't always, but it's more obvious now).

The only big problem is that you can't help who you love.

 

[swag]

I've noticed that trend for a while now. All of the girls who were pretty and popular in high school just...aren't now. They've either aged badly, or made poor decisions and are a bit hopeless. But the girls who were unpopular, or just awkward, are now quite pretty and interesting (not that they weren't always, but it's more obvious now).

The only big problem is that you can't help who you love.

Yeah, it's about peaking either in high school/college or later in life. Peak too soon, and you see some of the worst horror stories that time can commit on a person.

Not helping who you love is a big problem, though. This is why therapists are so gainfully employed. The difference perhaps being that the ideals of who people come to love changes as they progress from college into their 30s. It's these forces that are at the root of a lot of (IMO, necessary) divorces and what seem like changing tastes in what the opposite sex finds attractive whereas they may have been outcast losers a decade prior.

 

[Lilith]

Yeah, well there is that. We make foolish decisions all our lives. You just hope to get better at it with age.

The corollary in that is -- now pay attention, Dheeraj -- that when people get into their 30s and 40s, the equation for who are the most socially desirable folks sometimes gets completely turned on its head. The cool/hot people in their teens and 20s are suddenly out of vogue, and the late bloomers in their 30s become the hot ticket.

So there is hope for you yet, Sheik.

Here's a real story for you. My best friend, a native of Winnipeg, had this massive crush on the most popular girl in his high school. Prom queen. She didn't give him the time of day. Not like she was actively repulsed by the guy, but he basically didn't exist.

Fast forward 20+ years, and they meet up again on FB. She's been divorced from some douchebag who was cool in his teens and 20s. My friend has stayed single and developed a rather interesting international life with a lot of interests, career ambitions, taking care of himself, etc.

The two are now a massive item and she's all over him like he's the captain of the high school football team now.

You just never know...

You're hitting the nail on the head all day today. What I was attracted to at 16 is definitely not what I want for myself now, so Deedee, Greg is right and you should go out and socialise more like I've been telling you.

 

[Kate]

Yeah, it's about peaking either in high school/college or later in life. Peak too soon, and you see some of the worst horror stories that time can commit on a person.

Not helping who you love is a big problem, though. This is why therapists are so gainfully employed. The difference perhaps being that the ideals of who people come to love changes as they progress from college into their 30s. It's these forces that are at the root of a lot of (IMO, necessary) divorces and what seem like changing tastes in what the opposite sex finds attractive whereas they may have been outcast losers a decade prior.

I'm pretty sure I am having mine now, so I am trying to enjoy it to its fullest and make the right choices, but it's difficult.

It is interesting what you say about divorce; I think we had this conversation a while ago about people growing at different rates, and it has nothing to do with the other person doing anything wrong, they've just evolved in different directions.

 

[Bezzy]

You edited the post, that's why I didn't see it at first.

I'm 22. She's 24.

that is a small business and you don't seem like a inmature guy now a days
congrats with your good relationship :smile:


@ Risa why that name?

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Yeah, well there is that. We make foolish decisions all our lives. You just hope to get better at it with age.

The corollary in that is -- now pay attention, Dheeraj -- that when people get into their 30s and 40s, the equation for who are the most socially desirable folks sometimes gets completely turned on its head. The cool/hot people in their teens and 20s are suddenly out of vogue, and the late bloomers in their 30s become the hot ticket.

So there is hope for you yet, Sheik.

Here's a real story for you. My best friend, a native of Winnipeg, had this massive crush on the most popular girl in his high school. Prom queen. She didn't give him the time of day. Not like she was actively repulsed by the guy, but he basically didn't exist.

Fast forward 20+ years, and they meet up again on FB. She's been divorced from some douchebag who was cool in his teens and 20s. My friend has stayed single and developed a rather interesting international life with a lot of interests, career ambitions, taking care of himself, etc.

The two are now a massive item and she's all over him like he's the captain of the high school football team now.

You just never know...

I agree. It's all about finding the needle in the haystack! Problem is, the haystack is huge, and i don't have the courage to start that search. Maybe i will in some years. Who knows! Life is funny.

Nice hehe. Looks like a mini version of my fridge

Only problem is that this minibar ain't free.

Find yourself some vermouth and make a nice Negroni. (You've got the gin and Campari.)

Considering i got my visa interview in 6 hours, that's not a good idea.