Martin

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Dec 31, 2000
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I put up a note in my kitchen: When you leave dishes in the sink you are blocking the sink. Surprising but true. So please don't.

One of the people I live with (a girl) says to me "maybe next time you could leave a note that's not so aggressive".

wtf
 

Ford Prefect

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May 28, 2009
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I put up a note in my kitchen: When you leave dishes in the sink you are blocking the sink. Surprising but true. So please don't.

One of the people I live with (a girl) says to me "maybe next time you could leave a note that's not so aggressive".

wtf
One of THE worst things you can do when you live in shared accomidation is leave notes, its incredibly passive aggressive and no matter how you write it, it will come off in an aggressive manor!

On the topic, check this out - http://www.amazon.co.uk/Lick-Cheese-Other-Notes-Flatsharing/dp/1847441289

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Passive-Agg...Hilariously/dp/0061630594/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_c
 

Martin

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Dec 31, 2000
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One of THE worst things you can do when you live in shared accomidation is leave notes, its incredibly passive aggressive and no matter how you write it, it will come off in an aggressive manor!

On the topic, check this out - http://www.amazon.co.uk/Lick-Cheese-Other-Notes-Flatsharing/dp/1847441289

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Passive-Agg...Hilariously/dp/0061630594/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_c
It's the only thing that has any chance of working. You can tell people, but they'll just ignore you. Besides, that is *a lot* more invasive, then it's obvious you are accusing that person personally.

A note is impersonal, it can be ignored. Especially by someone thinking he's not breaking the rule it tries to enforce. Plus with a note you get the message across once and for all, it's gonna be up there for years probably. I don't have to tell every new person who moves in.

It's really the least bad solution.
 

Wings

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It's the only thing that has any chance of working. You can tell people, but they'll just ignore you. Besides, that is *a lot* more invasive, then it's obvious you are accusing that person personally.

A note is impersonal, it can be ignored. Especially by someone thinking he's not breaking the rule it tries to enforce. Plus with a note you get the message across once and for all, it's gonna be up there for years probably. I don't have to tell every new person who moves in.

It's really the least bad solution.
Just add a little smiley at the end. You will be surprised how much better it will look & work.
 

Ford Prefect

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May 28, 2009
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It's the only thing that has any chance of working. You can tell people, but they'll just ignore you. Besides, that is *a lot* more invasive, then it's obvious you are accusing that person personally.

A note is impersonal, it can be ignored. Especially by someone thinking he's not breaking the rule it tries to enforce. Plus with a note you get the message across once and for all, it's gonna be up there for years probably. I don't have to tell every new person who moves in.

It's really the least bad solution.
We had this german chick who kept going through our cupboards in my first year at uni, so me and my housemate put notes in our cupboards saying "stay the fuck out of my cupboard"...."is this stuff yours? no, so fuck off" (we really didnt get on with her, somewhat tainted my view of bavarians) And she complained to the residence warden about us and we got a written warning, WTF!

Also this year two of my housemates dont do any cleaning when we have inspections or take any bins, so my other housemate put a note up saying that me and him were not going to do anymore cleaning or take any bins out, and one of them wrote "this is my house aswell, i can do what i want" cunt.
 

Martin

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Dec 31, 2000
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We had this german chick who kept going through our cupboards in my first year at uni, so me and my housemate put notes in our cupboards saying "stay the fuck out of my cupboard"...."is this stuff yours? no, so fuck off" (we really didnt get on with her, somewhat tainted my view of bavarians) And she complained to the residence warden about us and we got a written warning, WTF!

Also this year two of my housemates dont do any cleaning when we have inspections or take any bins, so my other housemate put a note up saying that me and him were not going to do anymore cleaning or take any bins out, and one of them wrote "this is my house aswell, i can do what i want" cunt.
Yeah well what you're talking about is pretty serious conflict, a note won't do any good but neither will anything short of a confrontation. It's a near hopeless case.

I'm dealing with stuff on a smaller scale here.
 

Martin

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Dec 31, 2000
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Btw jasper, it's my experience that passive aggression is unavoidable in a shared living space. Family and strangers alike. And I think it's probably good actually, because it keeps a lot of smaller issues from escalating to an explicit conflict.
 

Wings

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Gah, you're right, that is a really good point.
At work we often leave notes for the next shift & sometimes they are not pleasant. The smilies always cushions the impact.

We had this german chick who kept going through our cupboards in my first year at uni, so me and my housemate put notes in our cupboards saying "stay the fuck out of my cupboard"...."is this stuff yours? no, so fuck off" (we really didnt get on with her, somewhat tainted my view of bavarians) And she complained to the residence warden about us and we got a written warning, WTF!

Also this year two of my housemates dont do any cleaning when we have inspections or take any bins, so my other housemate put a note up saying that me and him were not going to do anymore cleaning or take any bins out, and one of them wrote "this is my house aswell, i can do what i want" cunt.
Poor thing. I work with a German chic & she is so polite & friendly. Don't taint my vision :D The 2nd situation is indeed a nightmare.
 

Ford Prefect

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I just clean up after myself and keep the noise down. I had absolutely no issues with my housemates last year, we all got on really well, whereas in my first year the house was completely divided. And this year its me, my best mate and my girlfriend and we all get on fine, no problems. Its the other two who from the start made no effort to be social and contribute to the communal area etc. Guess thats the problem when you live in uni owned halls, its a lottery. Id rather that than live in private and pay bills etc.
 

Ford Prefect

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Poor thing. I work with a German chic & she is so polite & friendly. Don't taint my vision :D The 2nd situation is indeed a nightmare.
I said Bavarian, not German! As she constantly reminded us. (we did point out that Hitlers politics origins came from the area she was devout too and that he garnished a lot of support there, she was still proud) Iv have met many extremely pleseant Germans from Berlin, Frankfurt etc.etc.
 

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