Zacheryah

Senior Member
Aug 29, 2010
42,251
BS. Commitment is making your life function with the life of the other person in the relationship, not becoming the life of the other person. What a difference.
wrong, commitment is above all sacrifice and what you are sacrificing is your priorities for the good of the relationship(i never said it was for the other person's life). It's kinda like work, you commit to it and if you wanna succeed you cant just get up and leave at 5 with your work not finished if you had prior plans. If you did you are clearly not committed.
Actually, you are both right, because you have a different view on it.


In my previous long relation, i approached it kinda the way X is explaining it. What i have found out is that when you do that, girls will take advantage of you, and you'll become drawn into a vicious circle where you allways give up more, and its never enough. And it ends because you stop having the patience to cope with those things. It ends with a man broken and darkened forever. Me for example, i used to be alike Hustini.

In my current relation, i approach via Nzoric definition. You have your life, she has her life. Its very important to keep having your own habbits and occupations, even when living togheter. You build something up because you make yourself work in her life, but at the same time keep a healthy balance with your own. Be domminant in the relation. Never recessive. Balance what you give and take. Unless its sex, a man should be able to be bribed with bootycalls from his girl 24/7.


X view is a romantic one, but doesnt work with the big majority of the current batch of females. I find that sad. But for many of us, its a reality we must face.
 

GordoDeCentral

Diez
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Apr 14, 2005
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see the assumption here is that you are with someone who genuinely cares for you as much or more than you do for them. In which case they would not impede on your likes, passions, things you enjoy unless necessary. It has nothing to do with being romantic, it's just being reasonable and fair.
 

Zacheryah

Senior Member
Aug 29, 2010
42,251
see the assumption here is that you are with someone who genuinely cares for you as much or more than you do for them. In which case they would not impede on your likes, passions, things you enjoy unless necessary. It has nothing to do with being romantic, it's just being reasonable and fair.
Whilst this is true and the case with my current girl for the past 4.5 years now, she'd be with me 24/7, making me give up stuff to spend even more time with her. Because she wanted to be with me. As in, see me 6 days out of 7 and try to get my to sleep the weekend at her parents place to make it 7 whilst i wanted to go home from studenthome to see people.

I do make comprimises tho. I train 4 days instead of 5, twice afternoon instead of all in the evening, and i stop complaining after the first(weekdays) or second(free days/weekend) time we make out. Is still harder then obey her insane housekeeping rules and tasks, but if that makes her happy i can deal with it.
 

Bjerknes

"Top Economist"
Mar 16, 2004
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The moderator decisions are absolutely retarded as usual (which is not surprising considering who we're dealing with), but X will be a good mod. Still think swag should resign for being the Busquets/Chiellini/G Rossi of the forums.
 

Salvo

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Dec 17, 2007
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Sorry @Salvo but this had to be re-posted now that you're officially a mod :lol:

salvo-oscars-red-carpet.jpg
:lol: :lol: :lol:

Yes, I was looking for this pic the other day.

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The moderator decisions are absolutely retarded as usual (which is not surprising considering who we're dealing with), but X will be a good mod. Still think swag should resign for being the Busquets/Chiellini/G Rossi of the forums.
Thanks for the vote of confidence. ;)
 

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