Ok i found out today i have a big problem that lies ahead and i want some opinions of the wise and perhaps not so wise here.
Please bear with me, this is going to be a bit lengthy. Please please, i beg you read it it may seem a bit boring but ill give you a beer
(if i ever meet you in real life!!)
Ok, so a while ago, a very good friend of mine got together with a girl whom i used to like. At first i was not very pleased, but i learned to cope with it. It was hard for me because we have been the best of friends ever since i have moved to germany. He soon had less and less time for me, and eventually became totally invovled with her, and the only time i have seen him for along while was my birthday, but keep in mind we used to see each other almost every day. He eventually became VERY big headed about this whole situation, and thinks he is too good for me. He blocks me on MSN, (permenately) and we now hardly meet up outside of skool because of her. He also tells me how much he hates talking to me on msn when the subject is raised, and when i call him he is either busy with her or cuts the call very short. He even is becoming stingy on birthday presents, he gave me a cassette which he nicked on our holiday in ireland. (its a bit of a comical tape, prefab sprout if anyone has ever heard of them, we only laughed at them because they stink soooo much). His whole attitude has changed, and it feels like he cant do simple favours without so much of expecting something in return, or go a day without saying how stupid i look or am. So this whole ordeal has changed him. Which is very sad for me, because i only have a couple of really close friends, and one lives in england and the other lives here in germany. So that is the situation which i have had to face for 4 months. Watching my best friend turn into a jackass. Now here comes the tricky part. His G/F, i found out earlier on today, is an absolute fake. She tells him storys that are absolute cr@p just so she can wear the boots in the relationship. I dont want to divulge into too much detail cos my friend has this website address, and could very well check in on it. Just think along the lines of 'sex, pregnancy, beatings etc', which her friends in back where she lives say it is not true and she is saying bullsh1t. I, now have a convo with one of her friends so i have proof, (actual proof, in majority that is not just one person, plus a hole in her stories which i could expose too) and have the oppurtunity to expose her for a fake person that she is, and end their relationship. Its in my hands right now. Now here is the problem. I know my friend would go defense and not accept it at first, and be angry if me and my friends were to confront him. Eventually, it would get back to the person who told me and he/she would be very angry and betrayed. ( i said i would keep it a secret). But, however, if i dont say anything, he will continue to go out with a fake girl and still be a self-righteous prick to me. So either way, im absolutely screwed. Its a matter of being a bad friend or a bad friend.
But the goods that come from this are simple, with choice 'a' comes the releif (or depending on how he acts sometimes, pain) of not telling him, and the satisfaction of knowing something he doesnt when he lives a facade with her. But keep a shitty friend who doesnt see me anymore.
Or with choice 'B', have my friend angry at me for a while, but eventually get him back the way he was, but it would hurt him. And have the friend of the girl he dates (who is very very nice) left betrayed.
What should i do???? Its a sticky situation.....
Opinions please.
Please bear with me, this is going to be a bit lengthy. Please please, i beg you read it it may seem a bit boring but ill give you a beer
(if i ever meet you in real life!!)Ok, so a while ago, a very good friend of mine got together with a girl whom i used to like. At first i was not very pleased, but i learned to cope with it. It was hard for me because we have been the best of friends ever since i have moved to germany. He soon had less and less time for me, and eventually became totally invovled with her, and the only time i have seen him for along while was my birthday, but keep in mind we used to see each other almost every day. He eventually became VERY big headed about this whole situation, and thinks he is too good for me. He blocks me on MSN, (permenately) and we now hardly meet up outside of skool because of her. He also tells me how much he hates talking to me on msn when the subject is raised, and when i call him he is either busy with her or cuts the call very short. He even is becoming stingy on birthday presents, he gave me a cassette which he nicked on our holiday in ireland. (its a bit of a comical tape, prefab sprout if anyone has ever heard of them, we only laughed at them because they stink soooo much). His whole attitude has changed, and it feels like he cant do simple favours without so much of expecting something in return, or go a day without saying how stupid i look or am. So this whole ordeal has changed him. Which is very sad for me, because i only have a couple of really close friends, and one lives in england and the other lives here in germany. So that is the situation which i have had to face for 4 months. Watching my best friend turn into a jackass. Now here comes the tricky part. His G/F, i found out earlier on today, is an absolute fake. She tells him storys that are absolute cr@p just so she can wear the boots in the relationship. I dont want to divulge into too much detail cos my friend has this website address, and could very well check in on it. Just think along the lines of 'sex, pregnancy, beatings etc', which her friends in back where she lives say it is not true and she is saying bullsh1t. I, now have a convo with one of her friends so i have proof, (actual proof, in majority that is not just one person, plus a hole in her stories which i could expose too) and have the oppurtunity to expose her for a fake person that she is, and end their relationship. Its in my hands right now. Now here is the problem. I know my friend would go defense and not accept it at first, and be angry if me and my friends were to confront him. Eventually, it would get back to the person who told me and he/she would be very angry and betrayed. ( i said i would keep it a secret). But, however, if i dont say anything, he will continue to go out with a fake girl and still be a self-righteous prick to me. So either way, im absolutely screwed. Its a matter of being a bad friend or a bad friend.
But the goods that come from this are simple, with choice 'a' comes the releif (or depending on how he acts sometimes, pain) of not telling him, and the satisfaction of knowing something he doesnt when he lives a facade with her. But keep a shitty friend who doesnt see me anymore.
Or with choice 'B', have my friend angry at me for a while, but eventually get him back the way he was, but it would hurt him. And have the friend of the girl he dates (who is very very nice) left betrayed.
What should i do???? Its a sticky situation.....
Opinions please.
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