You're making it sound like there's only two options for me as that anti-war Russian, either love Putin or love the West. You don't have to be willing to get in bed with Biden&friends to acknowledge that what Putin is doing is damaging to everyone, especially Russia and Ukraine.
@Nzoric bought up this point that even though there's no legal and moral justification for Putins actions, he understands how Ukraine leaning towards the West created a national security threat for Russia. Continuing from the standpoint of a hypothetical Russian, I'd say the national security threat resulting from this war is way greater, for Russia this is a disaster every way you look at it.