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Dan

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Mar 9, 2004
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Like i said bes, you found a gem.

Well, listen. Just be very very nice, but not sticky. Like I said, ask her if she wants to talk about ANYTHING, say that you wont judge her and you will just be nice.

Its pretty hard to give advice, since none of us know the girl and to be honest, dont know your life outside the forum and such, but that is what I would do in a similar situation.

Speaking about love tangles, sorry to steal bes's thunder, but that MILF called again the other day...
 
Tom

Tom

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Oct 30, 2001
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Just out of interest it seems a bit odd that people are posting things like this on a forum.. I mean don't you have real life friends to ask for advice? (and that wasn't meant in a bad way.. just seems odd)
 

Nicole

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Sep 16, 2004
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++ [ originally posted by Paolo_Montero ] ++
Just out of interest it seems a bit odd that people are posting things like this on a forum.. I mean don't you have real life friends to ask for advice? (and that wasn't meant in a bad way.. just seems odd)
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Its better because we wont judge him, or anyone else, and even if we did no of us actually knows him (or I think so), whereas his friend might.
 
Dan

Dan

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Mar 9, 2004
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++ [ originally posted by Paolo_Montero ] ++
Just out of interest it seems a bit odd that people are posting things like this on a forum.. I mean don't you have real life friends to ask for advice? (and that wasn't meant in a bad way.. just seems odd)
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I think its alright. Sometimes asking people you dont know for advice is easier, not to mention there is more of us so the range of advice given would be considerably wider then perhaps Bes's inner circle of friends who are his age.
 
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Lawnchair Bes

Lawnchair Bes

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Jan 7, 2004
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    ++ [ originally posted by Paolo_Montero ] ++
    Just out of interest it seems a bit odd that people are posting things like this on a forum.. I mean don't you have real life friends to ask for advice? (and that wasn't meant in a bad way.. just seems odd)
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    i know what you mean and the answer would be yes and no. i looked at all my friends and the the timing and everything and came to the conclussion that it was better this way. plus the phone is on the other room.
     

    nedved34

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    Oct 3, 2002
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    ++ [ originally posted by Paolo_Montero ] ++
    Just out of interest it seems a bit odd that people are posting things like this on a forum.. I mean don't you have real life friends to ask for advice? (and that wasn't meant in a bad way.. just seems odd)
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    I guess we are juse bored man,I mean we are tired of winning scudetto over and over again.:dontcare:
     
    Tom

    Tom

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    Oct 30, 2001
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    ++ [ originally posted by Don Bes ] ++
    i know what you mean and the answer would be yes and no. i looked at all my friends and the the timing and everything and came to the conclussion that it was better this way. plus the phone is on the other room.
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    Fair enough, you're probably more trusting than I would be.. you never know if people on here are showing their "true faces" so to speak whereas you tend to know with your actual mates what they're like and whether you can trust them. That said each to his own, I wouldn't personally do it I don't think but anyway.. best of luck to you!
     
    jaecole

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    Apr 7, 2005
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    There is nothing you can do Don. Just go with it, you can't plan it out. What works for one person could really fvck it for you. Depends entirely on yourself. I would just say don't get too caught up in her, atleast until you have an idea she feels the same way. If your mind is anything like mine it can get carried away sometimes :)
    Good luck though.
     
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    Lawnchair Bes

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    Jan 7, 2004
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    ++ [ originally posted by Paolo_Montero ] ++


    Fair enough, you're probably more trusting than I would be.. you never know if people on here are showing their "true faces" so to speak whereas you tend to know with your actual mates what they're like and whether you can trust them. That said each to his own, I wouldn't personally do it I don't think but anyway.. best of luck to you!
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    true. i never said i would do whatever was told in here. i started the thread mostly as a complaint but i figured it wouldnt be as popular.
     

    Zlatan

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    Jun 9, 2003
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    ++ [ originally posted by Don Bes ] ++
    sorry guys but it just feels like i have to say it to somebody

    i finally get a chick to go out with me and she gets sick and he parents threaten to divorce the day before.
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    That's tough man.


    ++ [ originally posted by Don Bes ] ++

    anybody got any words to make me feel better ?
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    You'll never get a chance like this again :)


    ++ [ originally posted by Nicole ] ++
    I would say be there as a friend of her right now, someone she can talk to, and LISTEN to what she has to say, really listen. Dont try to be a "boyfriend" at a time like this, and she'll never forget it.
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    DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT do this. Sure, you can listen and give her a shoulder to cry on, but dont overdo it, even if you are listening to her, make sure she knows you want something more than a friendship. DO NOT BECOME HER FRIEND!!!

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    she got sick on the same weekend that that happened. and she is perfect, cute and she loves soccer as much as i do. crazy about milan though
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    Cool. Tease her about Milan a bit. But keep it light and make sure she knows you're kidding. Than say: "Well, it seems it's true opposites attract". You dont want to seem to needy or too interested, but you do want to let her know what your intentions are.


    ++ [ originally posted by Nicole ] ++


    That does sound bad, too many guys go out to "get a girlfriend", i can only speak for myself but I can pretty much KNOW when someone is like that. Why not try to be her friend? That is the best way in my opinion for something to develop for example a relationship.
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    Once again, don't listen to Nicole. Once you become a girls friend, in 99% of the cases you can never, NEVER, NEVER be anything more!!!


    ++ [ originally posted by Don Bes ] ++




    i AM interested but the problem with me is that if i become her friend i get stuck as her friend.

    about milan, its not like i let that get in the way
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    Exactly, make sure she knows you're interested in more.


    ++ [ originally posted by Nicole ] ++


    Dont act as if it is the end of the world.

    Tell me, if you really like this girl, what would you perfer?

    1. She is your girlfriend, you have a great couple of weeks/months, but ultimately it doesnt work out?

    or

    2. A lifelong friendship that if one day the feeling is mutual then a relationship could develop from that?
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    1. Every time. Because, even if you break up if you play your cards right you can still be her friend.











    Having said all that, now go out and shag her :)

    Seriously, talk to her, listen to her, pretend you care (or maybe you really care), when you thing the timing is right look into her eyes for a few second and give her a big 'ol wet one. Works best if you do it while she's talking.

    Afterwards, say you're sorry, and that you know she's going trough a tough time if you want to.


    P.S. NOW go and shag her :)
     
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