I think you're right in that the issue is people deal with grief and loss in different ways. So I'll accept that some do need to point fingers and look for blame elsewhere for a while after the match...
No one has once said Barca didn't deserve to win as the game played out. But the entire complexion of the game was changed by two massive errors by the referee in the space of less than a minute. The point is that who the fuck knows how the game would have turned out if he hadn't made those two errors. Barca was likely to win all the same, and were deserving winners regardless, but the referee made it a forgone conclusion that they were to win. He made a massive error. Two of them in fact. 1 of them could have been a goal for us. The other ended up starting the counterattack for their winning goal. So yeah. Barca is a deserving winner, but that doesn't completely nullify a massive error by the ref.
And discussing this 24 hours after the match has ended really isn't the end of the world. It's not being a sore loser. It's being pissed off that the ref made this massive error and not getting to see how the game would have played out in the end had it not happened.
I wasn't at all pissed off to be losing after the first half. I made no comments at all to that effect. We deserved to be down. If Barca had continued dominating us like in the first half, I would have been happy to say they crushed us and won. But that didn't happen, we took the initiative, and right in the midst of that the ref played a big part in the outcome with his mistakes. It is what it is. But there's certainly no harm in talking about it, or bringing it up. Just like there was no harm in talking about how we were screwed against Madrid 17 years ago by an offside goal. We probably didn't deserve to win that game either, because we played absolutely terribly, but it doesn't change the fact Madrid won on a clearly offside goal.
You people act like it's terrible and biased to bring such things up and be pissed off about them. It really isn't. I'm not clamouring for the ref to be suspended or hurt, or for Barca players to be injured or anything of that sort, or for UEFA to be disbanded. I'm saying it was a major mistake and it absolutely sucks that the ref didn't award a penalty on a clear foul in the box. It does.
ANyways. As I've said. What's done is done. I'm proud of the team and excited for next year.