One of the reasons why I'm always so annoyingly optimistic. I always try to be friendly and sincere. The hardest thing to do is not stay mad at something no matter the reason.
True Example: One of my brothers stopped talking to me because I married a Muslim. (him, his wife, my two nephews and niece). He is a bible thumper which obviously "conflicted" with his beliefs to the point where he no longer talks to me. Didn't even call me on my birthday on Jan 2nd. Interestingly enough, I was mad at him for a day or two after our argument and told him I forgave him and God will be the judge. I hit him with a few of his own bible verses to shut him up, such as, it isn't his place to judge, only God can judge. And instead of praying for me and my new family, he decides to judge, accuse and label which is directly opposite of Christ's teachings. I called him out on his hypocrisy and haven't heard from him sense. In my own path with God I prayed for him and God's will to be done regardless of how I felt and moved on. Moral of the story, it takes a unique individual in my opinion to be able to do that.
As annoying as I might be, especially in this thread, because I'm always trying to learn different points of view from everyone scattered all around the world but once thing I am certain of: the world needs a little bit more forgiveness.
It's strange: I called him and wish him a happy bday on his bday, called to say merry christmas, stopped by his house even and he barely said a word only because he didn't have a choice because I was standing right there. Called him when I heard he broke his foot (called him twice actually). I've made the effort to forgive and move on and try to rebuild the bridge.
Keep in mind, this is my oldest brother, 40 now, I think...he is the one I was supposed to go to for help with lifes issues cuz he has been through it all...and now, a newly wed and soon to be new father he abandons is little bro.
Sucks, but what can you do? My conscience is clean and THAT I can take to my grave. Not sure he can. Forgiveness is hard.
True Example: One of my brothers stopped talking to me because I married a Muslim. (him, his wife, my two nephews and niece). He is a bible thumper which obviously "conflicted" with his beliefs to the point where he no longer talks to me. Didn't even call me on my birthday on Jan 2nd. Interestingly enough, I was mad at him for a day or two after our argument and told him I forgave him and God will be the judge. I hit him with a few of his own bible verses to shut him up, such as, it isn't his place to judge, only God can judge. And instead of praying for me and my new family, he decides to judge, accuse and label which is directly opposite of Christ's teachings. I called him out on his hypocrisy and haven't heard from him sense. In my own path with God I prayed for him and God's will to be done regardless of how I felt and moved on. Moral of the story, it takes a unique individual in my opinion to be able to do that.
As annoying as I might be, especially in this thread, because I'm always trying to learn different points of view from everyone scattered all around the world but once thing I am certain of: the world needs a little bit more forgiveness.
It's strange: I called him and wish him a happy bday on his bday, called to say merry christmas, stopped by his house even and he barely said a word only because he didn't have a choice because I was standing right there. Called him when I heard he broke his foot (called him twice actually). I've made the effort to forgive and move on and try to rebuild the bridge.
Keep in mind, this is my oldest brother, 40 now, I think...he is the one I was supposed to go to for help with lifes issues cuz he has been through it all...and now, a newly wed and soon to be new father he abandons is little bro.
Sucks, but what can you do? My conscience is clean and THAT I can take to my grave. Not sure he can. Forgiveness is hard.
Forgiveness is liberating, don't get me wrong, and it means a lot outside the courtroom, but it's more a personal way of coping with having been wronged. When you shout it in the public, and precisely because there's no legal power to it, it suddenly becomes a meaningless gesture which, in this case, has more of an arrogant and belittling (rather than a liberating peaceful) tone to it (a picture I assume of Mohammad implying that we forgive Islam and Muslims). Regarding Maddy's point that we have to accept co-existence, this horrifying ideology is not possible to co-exist with and is absolutely not influenced by such a supposedly peaceful (which I highly doubt) message of forgiveness.
Sorry, I guess I really don't understand you here is all. Maybe it's cultural or I'm just bad at English today.
