With or against Marriage? (1 Viewer)
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Damn how the world has changed....for the worse.....People are starting to debate whether it is good or bad to get married. How would you not get married? If you fall in love with a girl, will you two be living your whole life together as an unmarried couple or what? Will it make such a big difference to both of the partners if they perform the marriage ceremony or what if they have already decided that they want to spend their whole lives together??
I could very easily not get married. For one, we can't afford it, and for two, it wouldn't change how happy we are. I have no problem whatsoever with living my entire life as an unmarried couple; being with my boyfriend is important to me, not spending a shitload of money on people we don't even like to come and see me in an overpriced dress eating some stale cake. If we had tons of money, sure. Why not? But otherwise, we would only do it if we had to for paperwork purposes.
Exactly, having a wedding doesn't mean you have to put down a fortune on a table. You can do it for 1000k and you can do it for 1m.
P.S, some people actually do make lot of money in their wedding
P.S, some people actually do make lot of money in their wedding
Rab would probably be able to sell the pics of his wedding to some tabloid for an insane amount of money. What with his pretty eyes & all.
But I think the only way us mere mortals would be able to "earn" something, would be by getting more gifts (money or other) than the amount you spent in the first place.
As for the question: I don't really care.
But I think the only way us mere mortals would be able to "earn" something, would be by getting more gifts (money or other) than the amount you spent in the first place.
As for the question: I don't really care.
But Kate, where is it written that you have to spend a shit load of money on your wedding? I, and im sure that many others will agree, consider it a personal choice whether you will have a big or a small, intimate wedding. My cousin spent like 50 euros for his wedding, inviting only the closest to him. Hell, look at many Hollywood stars, they have tons of money, and still, most of them have private, intimate weddings with like 50 people or so. From your post, i see that you keep looking at the wedding ceremony in the traditional sense, with 200+ people invited, cakes, dresses and what not. It is my personal opinion that times have changed, and it is completely normal to have a small wedding, with very little money spent.
There isnt really a difference, i agree, but wont you think that it is completely ludacris to annihilate the institution of marriage for a mere 100 or 500 dollars (euros)??
Exactly. My cousin also, and he was happier sharing that moment with 20 of his closest friends and relatives than he would be sharing it with 150-200 people that he doesnt like so much anyways......
There isnt really a difference, i agree, but wont you think that it is completely ludacris to annihilate the institution of marriage for a mere 100 or 500 dollars (euros)??
Exactly. My cousin also, and he was happier sharing that moment with 20 of his closest friends and relatives than he would be sharing it with 150-200 people that he doesnt like so much anyways......
Jesus Christ, no. I don't envisage a wedding as being a 200+ affair for me at all (I don't even know that many people), but many around me do and would expect it of me. And I can't be cheap on something like that if it were to happen - intimate: yes, cheap: no. But that's a personal thing.
I've gotten us a bit off-track because the wedding isn't the question, it's marriage itself. You say it is your personal opinion that times have changed, we can have small weddings now. Well haven't times also changed to the point where we don't have to get married at all? I don't find what is so offensive about that idea, so much so that you say the world is changing for the worse. My boyfriend is entitled to a lot of the same rights as a husband as my common-law spouse (I am allowed to sponsor him to live in this country, he is covered on my health plan, etc.) I don't see what we would gain, though I have not come to the point of buying houses or making wills yet so perhaps I am missing something.
And maybe I will one day change my mind about myself, but it is no concern of mine if other people never do, and I don't understand why it upsets other people so much.
Rappers ruin everything.
I've gotten us a bit off-track because the wedding isn't the question, it's marriage itself. You say it is your personal opinion that times have changed, we can have small weddings now. Well haven't times also changed to the point where we don't have to get married at all? I don't find what is so offensive about that idea, so much so that you say the world is changing for the worse. My boyfriend is entitled to a lot of the same rights as a husband as my common-law spouse (I am allowed to sponsor him to live in this country, he is covered on my health plan, etc.) I don't see what we would gain, though I have not come to the point of buying houses or making wills yet so perhaps I am missing something.
And maybe I will one day change my mind about myself, but it is no concern of mine if other people never do, and I don't understand why it upsets other people so much.
Rappers ruin everything.
But you have. You are saying "Because it won't make a difference, why not just do it!" but the counter argument is therefore just as valid, because it makes no difference.
And just because something has been around for millennia does not mean we shouldn't question its use in modern times. Some things that might have been appropriate practice for the ancient Greeks or medieval Englishmen are likely not appropriate today. People and society evolve.
And just because something has been around for millennia does not mean we shouldn't question its use in modern times. Some things that might have been appropriate practice for the ancient Greeks or medieval Englishmen are likely not appropriate today. People and society evolve.
Jesus Christ, no. I don't envisage a wedding as being a 200+ affair for me at all (I don't even know that many people), but many around me do and would expect it of me. And I can't be cheap on something like that if it were to happen - intimate: yes, cheap: no. But that's a personal thing.
I've gotten us a bit off-track because the wedding isn't the question, it's marriage itself. You say it is your personal opinion that times have changed, we can have small weddings now. Well haven't times also changed to the point where we don't have to get married at all? I don't find what is so offensive about that idea, so much so that you say the world is changing for the worse. My boyfriend is entitled to a lot of the same rights as a husband as my common-law spouse (I am allowed to sponsor him to live in this country, he is covered on my health plan, etc.) I don't see what we would gain, though I have not come to the point of buying houses or making wills yet so perhaps I am missing something.
And maybe I will one day change my mind about myself, but it is no concern of mine if other people never do, and I don't understand why it upsets other people so much.
Rappers ruin everything.
I've gotten us a bit off-track because the wedding isn't the question, it's marriage itself. You say it is your personal opinion that times have changed, we can have small weddings now. Well haven't times also changed to the point where we don't have to get married at all? I don't find what is so offensive about that idea, so much so that you say the world is changing for the worse. My boyfriend is entitled to a lot of the same rights as a husband as my common-law spouse (I am allowed to sponsor him to live in this country, he is covered on my health plan, etc.) I don't see what we would gain, though I have not come to the point of buying houses or making wills yet so perhaps I am missing something.
And maybe I will one day change my mind about myself, but it is no concern of mine if other people never do, and I don't understand why it upsets other people so much.
Rappers ruin everything.
Anyways, we all presented our arguments here and we can safely conclude that it all comes down to what the partners want, and how will they agree on this subject. But, if your boyfriend, who you probably love very much, says that he wants to get married, and would really mean a lot to him if you get married, wouldn't you accept?
Most women wanna look classy, true, but depends how one would define being classy bride. You can buy 300$ for the wedding dress, 1k for food and drink and lets say around 400 renting a place. There you go maximum 2k and trust me you would look classy
By receiving gifts and money you can make cash, but then again it depends how many people you're inviting.
Not a bad idea actually if you think of it
By receiving gifts and money you can make cash, but then again it depends how many people you're inviting.
Not a bad idea actually if you think of it
Sorry about the last part, after all, english isnt my native language
Anyways, we all presented our arguments here and we can safely conclude that it all comes down to what the partners want, and how will they agree on this subject. But, if your boyfriend, who you probably love very much, says that he wants to get married, and would really mean a lot to him if you get married, wouldn't you accept?
Anyways, we all presented our arguments here and we can safely conclude that it all comes down to what the partners want, and how will they agree on this subject. But, if your boyfriend, who you probably love very much, says that he wants to get married, and would really mean a lot to him if you get married, wouldn't you accept?
And if he asked me right now and it meant the world to him that I said yes, I would likely do so (though I would still be a bit wary, namely about where the hell he got the money for a ring).
However, if he asked me because he had become some born-again Christian or for religious purposes, I would have to say no and seriously question our future together.
Azzurri7 said:
Most women wanna look classy, true, but depends how one would define being classy bride. You can buy 300$ for the wedding dress, 1k for food and drink and lets say around 400 renting a place. There you go maximum 2k and trust me you would look classy
By receiving gifts and money you can make cash, but then again it depends how many people you're inviting.
By receiving gifts and money you can make cash, but then again it depends how many people you're inviting.