I know they're real now, but it's still so bizarre to see on a dating app to me.
Yes it is. But the way I see it, unless you're in the top 10% or so of attractiveness as a man, power is tilted towards the woman no matter what. Especially considering the traits you stated that the man must have. They're just so much more selective, no matter how average (or below average) they are. I swear it gives some of these women a complex.
I'm not using it to "score" necessarily either. I suck a meeting people and communicating with people unfamiliar to me, so I see this as a good way to improve myself as well as maybe find a significant other in the long term. Usually I would agree with those traits being a necessity, but in this case it seems something did actually happen that caused her to not show up. We've been texting back and forth all day and she seems like she's actually willing to meet up.
Plus I've seen who my female friends end up meeting with through these apps. If those guys can get with someone, I sure as hell can.
Hm. Actually, I think it's men to be blamed for pretty much everything. Men generally became bunch of pussies who show way too many emotions while girls are more hide and seek. Also, if you're sitting in a bar and girls scan, then yeah -- they will chose the pretty face that stands out. Doesn't have to mean much if the guy has an empty head or doesn't know to take the advantage. If you're the one gaming and making the first step I'd say what matters the most is the shit that you talk. Most of the guys fail miserably at this and I noticed it as well. Sometimes even when I hear my friends talking to some random girl I feel embarrased. But hell, I'd always give them the credit because I'd rather see that than to turn around and don't even approach. IMO men are just weird and in most of the cases they are just bad at approaching girls. Once you figure out the game I'd say it's quite easy to pick. Remember that they always want something unique and it's your job to take the advantage of it.
The dating app won't help. People hide way too much behind facebook, tinder and other apps. Basically everyone has balls to send a PM into some inbox of a hot girl while literally 5% or less wouldn't say anything in her face which is quite sad in my books. It does take guts but at least you show it to her face. They are not that mean as some project them to be, as long as your head is in the right place.
You're already in a good spot, man, as you recognized that you suck at it. Now comes the part where you work on it. Don't try to escape it through some bullshit app. Even if you use those (IMO), those should only be a bonus or something extra on the whole thing, but not the main package.
And btw this is me telling it, who has been (or is) anxious as fuck.