ALC

Ohaulick
Oct 28, 2010
46,535
You actually do that? :D A shot of what?
Tequila is my favorite but whiskey works the same. And I stopped doing it a while ago, I downgraded to drinking a beer half an hour before going to bed and now I usually don't need anything, I just lay down long enough and I'll sleep. If it's impossible I'll take a shot tho haha
 

Quetzalcoatl

It ain't hard to tell
Aug 22, 2007
66,773
Tequila is my favorite but whiskey works the same. And I stopped doing it a while ago, I downgraded to drinking a beer half an hour before going to bed and now I usually don't need anything, I just lay down long enough and I'll sleep. If it's impossible I'll take a shot tho haha
Aight buddy, I'll keep that in mind if things get too bad. Make every night a party :p
 

king Ale

Senior Member
Oct 28, 2004
21,689
Why unfortunately? If anything help is what drives divorce rates up, better education on marriage and kids is more of what is needed imo
Women in Iran cannot file for divorce except in rare circumstances* or if they have agreed terms with their future spouses to have the right to file for divorce acknowledged in their marriage license. The latter is only recently used by girls (though it's been a part of the law for a long time), who are mostly upper middle class and educated and neither need nor are eligible for government help. The female divorcees are thus mostly divorced by the spouse and are usually poor financially. The institutions I talked about were mostly founded shortly after the revolution and are meant to help the extremely poor/widows/and divorcees all of whom should really prove that they are eligible for the little fund they get from the government. As for education, the government's recent policies have been focused on encouraging people to have more kids (Khamaneei asked people to give birth to more kids so we can stand against the west, true story) and these policies are embraced very quickly by the poorer and more vulnerable people, so the government has no intention to educate people about marriage (which is btw still a very sacred concept in Iran) and kids, that's why some groups are trying to force the government to at least be more supportive of these people, especially because a female divorcee from a poor background has little chance of getting married again. Divorce percentage has gone up in Iran too, but that has to do with women from (upper) middle class and they don't need government's aid after divorce and won't get it either anyway.

*the husband being a drug addict/criminal or the wife can provide evidence that she's been bodily harmed by her husband.

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Anyone else ever falls asleep and wakes up shortly after, getting trouble to go back to sleep? Shit happens every night
Ah that sucks, happened to me before one of my most important exams (an 8 hour marathonish exam), I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't sleep again. I had freaked out because I needed to sleep, so only thing I could think of was studying, and after reading a few pages I fell asleep again :p Reading really does help. It's always good to have an unfinished novel :D
 

Dostoevsky

Tzu
Administrator
May 27, 2007
89,014
I think the reason is divorce doesn't have as many consequences as it used to have before, especially for women, and especially in bigger cities where women work and are financially dependent (i'm talking about Iran). Also divorce has been relatively destigmatized, again especially for women. I think both are good changes in a country like Iran, regardless of its effect on divorce percentage. Another thing, people of my parents' generation or generations before had more of an instinctive mindset about the concept of marriage, that you should get married to be safe and allowed to have kids, etc, now people can achieve those without having to accept the responsibilities that come with marriage.

Yea, nowadays it seems that's exactly the reason why women sometimes laugh at the idea of a marriage. It used to be a some sort of security which they can get themselves (sometimes). But it's what's actually sad as even new psychology confirms how important is to have both parents while growing up. Chances are quite high that kid is gonna end up lost while being going through the phase of adolescence. But in 95% of the cases it's women who push to be single mothers thinking they don't need a buy beside them to provide anything. I don't think it's ever vice versa.

Another contributing factor, in my opinion, is that concepts such as sacrifice, selflessness, contentment and patience as well as understanding the responsibilities that come with say having kids are no longer as integral parts of people's mindset when getting married as it was before, and it's both a man and a woman thing :p
Why do you think is that?
 

DAiDEViL

Senior Member
Feb 21, 2015
64,697
Tequila is my favorite but whiskey works the same. And I stopped doing it a while ago, I downgraded to drinking a beer half an hour before going to bed and now I usually don't need anything, I just lay down long enough and I'll sleep. If it's impossible I'll take a shot tho haha
Just take a sip of Absinth and close your eyes. @Lapa
 

Quetzalcoatl

It ain't hard to tell
Aug 22, 2007
66,773
Ah that sucks, happened to me before one of my most important exams (an 8 hour marathonish exam), I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't sleep again. I had freaked out because I needed to sleep, so only thing I could think of was studying, and after reading a few pages I fell asleep again :p Reading really does help. It's always good to have an unfinished novel :D
Wtf is an 8 hour exam? :shocked2: Yeah, that would keep anyone up.

Yeah, too tired at those times to read though :sick:
 

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