Nzoric

Grazie Mirko
Jan 16, 2011
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She found out she had leukemia last year but she never told me (we've only been together for a month). I found out 'cause I met one of her friends and he told me everything, then I asked her about it and yeah it was true... Her cousin then told me doctors in Panama said she'll live 5 years at most. Fucking hell, I don't know what to do.
fucking hell, im sorry to hear that.
 

Kate

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Feb 7, 2011
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She found out she had leukemia last year but she never told me (we've only been together for a month). I found out 'cause I met one of her friends and he told me everything, then I asked her about it and yeah it was true... Her cousin then told me doctors in Panama said she'll live 5 years at most. Fucking hell, I don't know what to do.
I am really sorry to hear that, Claudio.
 

Kasaki

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Jun 1, 2010
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She found out she had leukemia last year but she never told me (we've only been together for a month). I found out 'cause I met one of her friends and he told me everything, then I asked her about it and yeah it was true... Her cousin then told me doctors in Panama said she'll live 5 years at most. Fucking hell, I don't know what to do.
I'd day do the opposite (get close). She obv didn't want you to know to avoid clouding your judgement. Make the last 5 years of her life the best 5 years of her life.
Enjoy the present, forget about the future :champ:
 

swag

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Sep 23, 2003
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Just today I found out my girlfriend has leukemia.
That's horrible, Claudio. I'm really sorry to hear that.

I'm surrounded by bad health news of friends and family these days, so I can relate.

She found out she had leukemia last year but she never told me (we've only been together for a month). I found out 'cause I met one of her friends and he told me everything, then I asked her about it and yeah it was true... Her cousin then told me doctors in Panama said she'll live 5 years at most. Fucking hell, I don't know what to do.
I'd day do the opposite (get close). She obv didn't want you to know to avoid clouding your judgement. Make the last 5 years of her life the best 5 years of her life.
Enjoy the present, forget about the future :champ:
Billy has some pretty wise words. His maturity can be deceiving, I swear. ;)

I'd say do what you want. Whether that's closer or not. Go with how you feel -- there's no right or wrong answer.

Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of impending death and will try to avoid loss. But here's a life secret: it happens to all of us. So either you can bury your head in the sand and keep pretending we'll all live forever, or you make that step and acknowledge it as a fact of life. Because, in fact, death defines life.

You may find, for example, that her perspective and approach to life given the news could be some of the best personal wisdom for how you can appreciate and enjoy your own life for years to come. News of impending death does that to people -- it can shake them out of their comfort zone of denial, and they can often be the most life-affirming people you'll ever meet.

Because you're never going to escape that eventuality -- for yourself, your friends, your family. It's heavy to deal with at any time. But if you're ready for it, I'm sure it can ultimately be a very positive experience overall if you let it.
 

swag

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Btw, on the old topic of pot smokers who publicly celebrate the fact around these parts (and in life), I think Mike Doughty nails it in his autobiographical book about his life of music and heroin-addiction that I'm reading, called The Book of Drugs:

Weed addicts are alone among drug users in that they think their shit is cute. I heard an anecdote once about a guy working in a studio, and there was somebody sleeping under a blanket on a couch; the guy whips off the blanket and gets up, and it's a legendary outlaw country music star. The storyteller goes on, like, "He fired up a joint and whoohoo! Wake-and-bake! Whoohoo awesome!" I don't think that story would go, "The first thing he did when he was awake was chop out a line of blow!" Or, "He downed a shot of tequila when he woke up, 'cause he had the shakes!"
 

Kate

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Feb 7, 2011
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Billy has some pretty wise words. His maturity can be deceiving, I swear. ;)

I'd say do what you want. Whether that's closer or not. Go with how you feel -- there's no right or wrong answer.

Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of impending death and will try to avoid loss. But here's a life secret: it happens to all of us. So either you can bury your head in the sand and keep pretending we'll all live forever, or you make that step and acknowledge it as a fact of life. Because, in fact, death defines life.

You may find, for example, that her perspective and approach to life given the news could be some of the best personal wisdom for how you can appreciate and enjoy your own life for years to come. News of impending death does that to people -- it can shake them out of their comfort zone of denial, and they can often be the most life-affirming people you'll ever meet.

Because you're never going to escape that eventuality -- for yourself, your friends, your family. It's heavy to deal with at any time. But if you're ready for it, I'm sure it can ultimately be a very positive experience overall if you let it.
:agree: Listen to your friend Billy Zane, he is very wise.
 
Apr 15, 2006
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That's horrible, Claudio. I'm really sorry to hear that.

I'm surrounded by bad health news of friends and family these days, so I can relate.





Billy has some pretty wise words. His maturity can be deceiving, I swear. ;)

I'd say do what you want. Whether that's closer or not. Go with how you feel -- there's no right or wrong answer.

Some people are uncomfortable with the idea of impending death and will try to avoid loss. But here's a life secret: it happens to all of us. So either you can bury your head in the sand and keep pretending we'll all live forever, or you make that step and acknowledge it as a fact of life. Because, in fact, death defines life.

You may find, for example, that her perspective and approach to life given the news could be some of the best personal wisdom for how you can appreciate and enjoy your own life for years to come. News of impending death does that to people -- it can shake them out of their comfort zone of denial, and they can often be the most life-affirming people you'll ever meet.

Because you're never going to escape that eventuality -- for yourself, your friends, your family. It's heavy to deal with at any time. But if you're ready for it, I'm sure it can ultimately be a very positive experience overall if you let it.
I agree. Death gives a sense of urgency to life. It motivates you to do everything you really want to do. If you really care about this girl, and want her to be as happy as she possibly can be, then this is the only time you'll get to do so. So make no haste and make this girl happy!
 

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Oct 11, 2005
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Sorry to hear Claudio. Hope you have the strength go get through this time in your life.

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Sometimes you need that bitch slap in the face that tells you, "You ain't gonna live forever, yo."
I've always been surprised at how much of a shock death is to some people.
 
Apr 15, 2006
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Sorry to hear Claudio. Hope you have the strength go get through this time in your life.

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I've always been surprised at how much of a shock death is to some people.
I regret that I didn't get that shock earlier in my life. That bitchslap would've been so much more welcome 10 years ago than now.
 

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After finishing 50 Shades of Gray and meditating on life for 15 minutes. I've decided to take up erotic poetry as my career choice, mostly haikus and Shakespearian sonnets.

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I regret that I didn't get that shock earlier in my life. That bitchslap would've been so much more welcome 10 years ago than now.
The problem is that it's a shock. Human life is long. People tend to take that for granted. House flies on the other hand have a life cycle of about 14 days. We should be happy with what we have, but most don't allow themselves to be content, to enjoy the moment. That is the real shame.
 
Apr 15, 2006
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The problem is that it's a shock. Human life is long. People tend to take that for granted. House flies on the other hand have a life cycle of about 14 days. We should be happy with what we have, but most don't allow themselves to be content, to enjoy the moment. That is the real shame.
OH I agree with that. In my case, that shock had positive repercussions that, in hindsight, would've welcomed many years ago rather than recently.
 

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