But the door ain't closed yet. I may have called their bluff. It wasn't a negotiating tactic for me -- they changed the position towards the end of the long process, and what came about wasn't something I was still interested in.
But the door ain't closed yet. I may have called their bluff. It wasn't a negotiating tactic for me -- they changed the position towards the end of the long process, and what came about wasn't something I was still interested in.
But the door ain't closed yet. I may have called their bluff. It wasn't a negotiating tactic for me -- they changed the position towards the end of the long process, and what came about wasn't something I was still interested in.
But the door ain't closed yet. I may have called their bluff. It wasn't a negotiating tactic for me -- they changed the position towards the end of the long process, and what came about wasn't something I was still interested in.
The sad part for them is that I thought it was kind of an amateurish move. Meaning if we do renegotiate the role and everything, my esteem for them as a company has been dinged for how they handled it.
Essentially they were hiring me for their top engineering role in the company. Then after I got back from visiting their Portland office, apparently they just made a hire to lead the engineering at that office. He had negotiated a more strategic role in the company as a precondition to accepting an offer. So the company later hedged and said they wanted two heads of engineering -- after I had been through several rounds of interviews with different expectations about the role for which I was applying. That sounded like a complex mess (and a company that can't make a decision). Not to mention a bait-and-switch.
The sad part for them is that I thought it was kind of an amateurish move. Meaning if we do renegotiate the role and everything, my esteem for them as a company has been dinged for how they handled it.
Essentially they were hiring me for their top engineering role in the company. Then after I got back from visiting their Portland office, apparently they just made a hire to lead the engineering at that office. He had negotiated a more strategic role in the company as a precondition to accepting an offer. So the company later hedged and said they wanted two heads of engineering -- after I had been through several rounds of interviews with different expectations about the role for which I was applying. That sounded like a complex mess (and a company that can't make a decision). Not to mention a bait-and-switch.
One that's totally different -- consulting with a lot of travel. The travel part could be a grind after a while. But it would be a great way to keep my skills sharp and work with a lot of really bright people...lots of upsides otherwise.
I'm meeting someone new in a couple hours who might "need my services". So you keep going and you never know. Fortunately my wife is in good shape, I generally live a modest lifestyle when necessary, and we're not hurting for money.
You're not going to find solace in this now, but the risks of falling in love often come from your own (and often reasonable) expectations. If you don't let yourself become vulnerable to begin with, you haven't even left the house and have little to gain as well.