What Are You Doing Right Now? (308 Viewers)

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Lots of reasons. Not many of them that good, IMO.

For one, they can be testing you to see how truly interested you are -- and that you're not just a horn dog looking to score with the easiest slut. (Not you, Sheik. ) Or they could be not so interested to begin with.

If they're not so interested to begin with, why teh fuck can't they just say NO?

Alternatively, it could be you. If you're showing too much interest, she could be trying to cool things off on your end and not show you too many signals.

I'm sure that just asking someone out on a date does not count as showing too much interest.

Plus, since when did showing too much interest become a wrong thing? Isn't display of interest important in a new relationship?

I dunno. I generally came to the conclusion long ago that men and women who play games with each other that much -- i.e., "I'm more aloof than you. Your turn to come here." rather than, "This is horsecrap, I like hanging out with you." -- doesn't bode well for any future. Who wants a potential future relationship with someone based on playing games and not being honest with each other?

Not me, for sure.

Like your sig says, "All it takes is a little PUSH!"

IMO, that isn't a horrible thing to do once in a while. Bappu Gandhi may have fucked over his wife by going celibate on her without even discussing it, but I understand the notion of clearing your head of all that once in a while.

I was kidding there.

This That's one of the best parts as well, that realisation that you just want to spend as much time together as possible and balls to everyone else.

Pre-fuckin'-cisely!

 

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[Itztli]

Do you really need to ask?

You're right. Do I need to ask?

Nevar

 

[IrishZebra]

Ignoring girls or flirting with their uggo friends is how you 'get' them, I never said deceit is a useful building block.

Probably for the best though. more Sheik for me.

 

[Kate]

Pre-fuckin'-cisely!

I can be wise sometimes.

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Ignoring girls or flirting with their uggo friends is how you 'get' them, I never said deceit is a useful building block.

Probably for the best though. more Sheik for me.

I shall never employ deceitful tactics. That's simply not how I roll.

I can be wise sometimes.

One of the reasons I appreciate you along with your chin and orgasmic accent.

 

[IrishZebra]

I shall never employ deceitful tactics. That's simply not how I roll.

All's fair my friend. People pretending to be different to their true selves happens all the time, dressing up, ordering a fancy drink, pretending to like killswitch engage, all the usual shite. It's not about deceit it's about getting you are fair shot to show to awesome guy you are.

 

[Lapa]

I can be wise sometimes.

You were supposed to be wise all the time, what has happened? Too much sauce?

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

All's fair my friend. People pretending to be different to their true selves happens all the time, dressing up, ordering a fancy drink, pretending to like killswitch engage, all the usual shite. It's not about deceit it's about getting you are fair shot to show to awesome guy you are.

well that was random.

I see what you mean though. Interesting.

 

[Kate]

One of the reasons I appreciate you along with your chin and orgasmic accent.

All's fair my friend. People pretending to be different to their true selves happens all the time, dressing up, ordering a fancy drink, pretending to like killswitch engage, all the usual shite. It's not about deceit it's about getting you are fair shot to show to awesome guy you are.

Honesty is a lot more attractive. And that way you don't get dragged to Killswitch Engage concerts!

You were supposed to be wise all the time, what has happened? Too much sauce?

I am on a sauce-reduction regime, so perhaps it's a lack thereof that's making me less reliable on the wisdom front.

 

[IrishZebra]

Worked when I was 15

Honesty might be more attractive but the cold shoulder works best for getting noticed.

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Worked when I was 15

Honesty might be more attractive but the cold shoulder works best for getting noticed.

Interesting.

 

[Bezzy]

Back from the hairdresser

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Post a pic.

 

[Kate]

Worked when I was 15

Honesty might be more attractive but the cold shoulder works best for getting noticed.

I'm glad it works for you

Back from the hairdresser

Pic!

 

[swag]

If they're not so interested to begin with, why teh fuck can't they just say NO?

A. They don't know what they want.
B. They might be too meek to turn someone down except ever so politely.
C. They don't know what they want.

I'm sure that just asking someone out on a date does not count as showing too much interest.

Sounds like you gave it a reasonable shot then. Like I said, you could play all the games like IZ mentions. But I don't think that suits your style. You're much better off with someone who appreciates your up-front honesty and sincerity.

All's fair my friend. People pretending to be different to their true selves happens all the time, dressing up, ordering a fancy drink, pretending to like killswitch engage, all the usual shite. It's not about deceit it's about getting you are fair shot to show to awesome guy you are.

Well, yes. Like nobody on dating sites ever exaggerates, right?

Not saying it's the wrong answer. Some people have a past history that motivates them to have these hoops to jump through just to get to know them and you.

But my red flag to the Sheik is this: the kind of person who thinks they should be different from their truer self, or wants you to be different from your truer self for the game, is someone you probably don't want to be with to start with.

Point being: someone playing hard to get suggests that they have an inclination to make things a little challenging to get together. And not that you need to get married and that you can't just date someone to have fun together for a while. But believe me -- seeing as many failed marriages of friends in recent years as I have -- if both parties don't find a way to make it easy to be together, the relationship is doomed. Maybe now, maybe a little later.

It takes two people actively working to make it work together in mutual honesty. And someone who shows signs of holding back for a while -- even if just as part of an early tease -- is a major warning flag of someone whose personality is primed for mutually assured destruction if the relationship should ever get serious.

Or in short: by playing hard to get, she self-selected herself out of the running for the Sheikstress.

 

[IrishZebra]

Everything you say is true, but I'm 20, serious is a Facebook status to me...

All I'm saying is that for the first date or the first shift (Curr will know ) the whole play it cool angle is no harm, you don't have to be like that at all from that point onward, it's just to get the initial attention.

 

[swag]

Not that I don't think you're right about how to gain attention, IZ.

 

[Kate]

Oh to be young again

 

[IrishZebra]

It has it's moments.

 

[swag]

But something tells me Sheik isn't so much young and on the prowl for the evening's notch on the bedpost either.