What Are You Doing Right Now? (308 Viewers)

[Seven]

Exactly.

Very few virgins just casually hook up with a girl for their first time though.

 

Buy on AliExpress.com

[Dostoevsky]

There is. Of course. But most guys who set insanely high standards are actually just scared of women.

In majority of cases it's just pure fear IMO. Thinking way too much, planning way too much etc. In the end even if they end up in bed chances are high of no boner because of stress.

I have one friend who's really, really fucked up. And it's not even mocking. He's a really great guy but he's just retarded when it comes to girls. Not even retarded, I WISH he was bad, but he doesn't even try cause of that fear. I seriously don't know how to help him as he won't even talk about it much, he just changes the subject. Any idea?

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

Indeed, he said he doesnt want to bang her while not thinking she is ugly. Its bit peculiar, I get wanting to look for serious meaningful relationship first as your goal, I do too, we all should. But when you realize said prospects for that is not possible in whatever standard he has for that, then why not just have fun and then part ways?

The main thing I agree with E about is him suggesting he should be using this date and other not going anywhere dates as practice, git gud and get over your hang ups and pick up some valuable social cues and ways to naturally interact/assert yourself.

The first date was practice enough.

It is India after all. He probably can't just bang her like that. Aren't casual hookups frowned at there?

Frowned upon, but people do it anyway. It's just more hush-hush.

Just go out with her. It's not like you have to do anything, you don't have to marry the girl.

One thing you'll surely get is experience and there's never enough of that, eh? It can't go that bad.

Like I said, it's not about the date going bad. I really don't want to waste my time on something or someone I'm not interested in. Plus I really don't see the point in stringing her along any longer. You may not think so, but it's really too much work for me.

 

[Seven]

In majority of cases it's just pure fear IMO. Thinking way too much, planning way too much etc. In the end even if they end up in bed chances are high of no boner because of stress.

I have one friend who's really, really fucked up. And it's not even mocking. He's a really great guy but he's just retarded when it comes to girls. Not even retarded, I WISH he was bad, but he doesn't even try cause of that fear. I seriously don't know how to help him as he won't even talk about it much, he just changes the subject. Any idea?

No. My best friend is completely like that as well. Always has been. Only recently has he started to try a bit more and he's 29.

- - - Updated - - -

Like I said, it's not about the date going bad.

No, it's not. The first date went well and so did the texting afterwards.

So why exactly are you not interested anymore? Is it because she doesn't like the Teletubby you like?

 

[Osman]

The first date was practice enough.

How did it go?


P.S Its my personal view only, but IMO you better of trying to meet someone in common social circles instead of online blind dates, the latter just increases the awkwardness when you dont have something tangible in common to have gotten a feel for eachother before going on date.

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

In majority of cases it's just pure fear IMO. Thinking way too much, planning way too much etc. In the end even if they end up in bed chances are high of no boner because of stress.

I have one friend who's really, really fucked up. And it's not even mocking. He's a really great guy but he's just retarded when it comes to girls. Not even retarded, I WISH he was bad, but he doesn't even try cause of that fear. I seriously don't know how to help him as he won't even talk about it much, he just changes the subject. Any idea?

Leave him be. Seems like a guy whose mind can't be changed.

No, it's not. The first date went well and so did the texting afterwards.

So why exactly are you not interested anymore? Is it because she doesn't like the Teletubby you like?

I dunno what more I can say than "I'm just not into her". I really don't have the motivation to do what you're asking to gain the experience/get laid.

 

[Seven]

I really don't have the motivation to do what you're asking to gain the experience/get laid.

Or you're scared. Which is perfectly normal too btw.

 

[Sheik Yerbouti]

How did it go?

P.S Its my personal view only, but IMO you better of trying to meet someone in common social circles instead of online blind dates, the latter just increases the awkwardness when you dont have something tangible in common to have gotten a feel for eachother before going on date.

The reason I agreed to go on it is to test the skills I had learnt to overcome the awkwardness. And it worked really well. I had a good time, and from what she told Woody and me later on, she thought I was one of the smartest guys she had dated and enjoyed the night very much.

Or you're scared. Which is perfectly normal too btw.

That would've been the reason a few years ago, but certainly not for this one.

 

[swag]

In other news

I need coffee

Sempre

 

[Seven]

That would've been the reason a few years ago, but certainly not for this one.

Okay. You should know best obviously, but always think about your motivation for these things. Sometimes people let minor fears or awkward situations stand in the way of better things.

 

[Osman]

The reason I agreed to go on it is to test the skills I had learnt to overcome the awkwardness. And it worked really well. I had a good time, and from what she told Woody and me later on, she thought I was one of the smartest guys she had dated and enjoyed the night very much.

Ok sounds good

 

[Dostoevsky]

Like I said, it's not about the date going bad. I really don't want to waste my time on something or someone I'm not interested in. Plus I really don't see the point in stringing her along any longer. You may not think so, but it's really too much work for me.

Tell me something.

If Woody texted you right now and told you how she wants a one night stand only, but she told him not to say anything, yet he did. Would you do it? Fully knowing there's NOTHING more behind it.

 

[Seven]

Tell me something.

If Woody texted you right now and told you how she wants a one night stand only, but she told him not to say anything, yet he did. Would you do it? Fully knowing there's NOTHING more behind it.

For many people that might be tempting, but I completely understand why virgins / men with little experience are frightened by such a scenario.

 

[Osman]

It doesnt necessarily have to be frightened in all cases, some girls are just so completely uninteresting that they arent even worth casual sex, even if they look good.

 

[Dostoevsky]

For many people that might be tempting, but I completely understand why virgins / men with little experience are frightened by such a scenario.

I also understand. It's not like I'm farting experience myself. But I'd like to hear his opinion on this.

- - - Updated - - -

It doesnt necessarily have to be frightened in all cases, some girls are just so completely uninteresting that they arent even worth casual sex, even if they look good.

I'd rather put it in a wet hole rather than watching porn tbh.

But if you have other choices, then yeah, I suppose.

 

[Enron]

So does E. He took sheikh's post at face value. That's generally a bad idea. The reason he doesn't want to go is not that he doesn't like the girl. It's that he fears it will be awkward because he's not good with girls. Apart from that he might also be scared that he might not like her that much in person. Either way he just doesn't want to go because he hates confronting that awkwardness.

Well, wake the fuck up, sometimes dating can be awkward. Just go ffs.

And if the first date went well and so did the texting, don't go in autodestruct mode just because it feels weird.

I figured it was either, or. So I gave the most neutral answer.

 

[Seven]

But if you have other choices, then yeah, I suppose.

https://www.google.be/search?q=monk...ei=wDiGWLb0JseUaL64u9AM#imgrc=M3B3epbfthZlwM:

- - - Updated - - -

I figured it was either, or. So I gave the most neutral answer.

Yeah, and maybe you're right anyway. But looking at his posts I can kind of feel the fear .

 

[Enron]

It doesnt necessarily have to be frightened in all cases, some girls are just so completely uninteresting that they arent even worth casual sex, even if they look good.

I hooked with a super hot dentist a couple of times this summer. One of the last times we hooked up she suggested that we try dating. So I took her our, but not only did she freak out before the first date because of a misunderstanding in the time we were meeting, she turned out to be one of the oddest and most boring humans I had ever met.

 

[.zero]

But the point is to 'get into her' regardless of whether or not you 'are into her'

Don't be scared of the v, dive right it

or at least earn some becky

 

[Osman]

or at least earn some becky

Plies

Just got Becky, I can't move
I love Becky, yes I do
I get Becky, I am glued
Give me Becky, I'll do you

You don't do Becky, bye bye, boo
I love Becky like my jewels
You don't like Becky, you a fool
Oughta put Becky on the new

Becky, Becky, she so cool
I don't get Becky I can't sleep
I need Becky 'fo I beat
Becky, Becky, marry me

- - - Updated - - -

I hooked with a super hot dentist a couple of times this summer. One of the last times we hooked up she suggested that we try dating. So I took her our, but not only did she freak out before the first date because of a misunderstanding in the time we were meeting, she turned out to be one of the oddest and most boring humans I had ever met.

I feel your pain, you dont know how much. Tried to date a co worker last year, OMG was she insanely boring outside jokish work inviroment, completely goofy stiff when you got her alone, jeez.