Gym and fitness (208 Viewers)

[Zacheryah]

Zach, I have to agree with the others. I've been in a relationship where he didn't want me going out without him, especially if there was the possibility of guys being present. It was a nightmare, and eventually I just had to start lying about where I was going some nights (I really didn't want him coming along every time). I never cheated or did anything that would make a secure guy feel uneasy, but I always ended up feeling guilty like I was doing something I wasn't supposed to be, because of the lying. I hate lying too so it just felt wrong. Just one of the many reasons why that relationship didn't work out... trust should always be the #1 foundation of any healthy relationship.

If she wasn't as attractive and wasn't as good in bed/as frequently, but still had all the other same traits, would you stay with her then?

If she would get skincancer and lose her hair tomorrow, i'd stay. Its not even an question.

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[Ragazza]

She tried to stab you and you stayed with her??? She must've been hot. Pics plz.

A lot of times it's hard to leave abusive relationships tbh. If you haven't been in one you'd think it would be easy - being miserable and in pain vs. not being miserable and in pain, not a tough choice - but fear of retaliation or some such usually becomes a big factor. For me, I eventually just wagered that he wasn't quite crazy/stupid enough to risk going to prison so I got up the courage to do it.

 

[ALC]

A lot of times it's hard to leave abusive relationships tbh. If you haven't been in one you'd think it would be easy - being miserable and in pain vs. not being miserable and in pain, not a tough choice - but fear of retaliation or some such usually becomes a big factor. For me, I eventually just wagered that he wasn't quite crazy/stupid enough to risk going to prison so I got up the courage to do it.

If I had any brothers, cousins, guy friends, etc I'd just let them handle it. I know it may be difficult to do that to someone you have feelings for but that's just what I would go with personally.

 

[Ragazza]

If she would get skincancer and lose her hair tomorrow, i'd stay. Its not even an question.

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Ah. Well I don't know her, and I only know you through your posts, so of course I can't say for sure. If you're truly happy, then keep at it. I've just gotten tired of seeing unwarranted jealousy and paranoia in relationships.

 

[Post Ironic]

A lot of times it's hard to leave abusive relationships tbh. If you haven't been in one you'd think it would be easy - being miserable and in pain vs. not being miserable and in pain, not a tough choice - but fear of retaliation or some such usually becomes a big factor. For me, I eventually just wagered that he wasn't quite crazy/stupid enough to risk going to prison so I got up the courage to do it.

That's exactly it. Especially if the partner wasn't always abusive or filled with jealousy. There's always this thought that this is just a rough patch, a phase, and things will return to what they once were, things will get amazing again, she or he will return to being the person you fell in love with. It's hard to just leave someone you were in love with for a long period of time. You're miserable and suffering, but sometimes you think you'll be even more miserable apart from this person you loved. Eventually though, you realize that this isn't the case, and that the relationship needs to end for the sake of both people involved, because regardless of whether love was there once, it certainly has been extinguished.

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The gym and fitness thread... What happened?

 

[Ragazza]

That's exactly it. Especially if the partner wasn't always abusive or filled with jealousy. There's always this thought that this is just a rough patch, a phase, and things will return to what they once were, things will get amazing again, she or he will return to being the person you fell in love with. It's hard to just leave someone you were in love with for a long period of time. You're miserable and suffering, but sometimes you think you'll be even more miserable apart from this person you loved. Eventually though, you realize that this isn't the case, and that the relationship needs to end for the sake of both people involved, because regardless of whether love was there once, it certainly has been extinguished.

Yeah. I was with this guy for almost four years, and the first two years were fine. Soon after I moved in with him was when he turned into a completely different person, it was scary. I still loved him for a while, and thought something just must be stressing him out, but eventually I just realized how much I actually started hating him. One of the last straws was when his mother was visiting and she overheard him hurling names at me (I think I had dared to put a football match on TV instead of do whatever it was he wanted me to do), and then she pulled me aside and told me it must be my fault for making her son say those things, and that I should go apologize. A few months later I was outta there.

My guess is the first two years were just an act because if I wasn't living with him, it was physically impossible to try to control my every move. Once that happened and he knew I was comfortable, his real self came out. He had patience and persistence, I'll give him that much.

The gym and fitness thread... What happened?

Who knows... I rarely even visit this thread, I just came in because I noticed all the activity and was curious.

 

[Zacheryah]

I'd talk about training, but i'm suffering from the side effects from my huge antibiotics threatment, so i'm unhappy training isnt going as it should

 

[IliveForJuve]

I wouldn't know. I've always been the abusive partner

I wasn't jealous or anything but I enjoyed making my exes suffer.

 

[Post Ironic]

Yeah. I was with this guy for almost four years, and the first two years were fine. Soon after I moved in with him was when he turned into a completely different person, it was scary. I still loved him for a while, and thought something just must be stressing him out, but eventually I just realized how much I actually started hating him. One of the last straws was when his mother was visiting and she overheard him hurling names at me (I think I had dared to put a football match on TV instead of do whatever it was he wanted me to do), and then she pulled me aside and told me it must be my fault for making her son say those things, and that I should go apologize. A few months later I was outta there.

My guess is the first two years were just an act because if I wasn't living with him, it was physically impossible to try to control my every move. Once that happened and he knew I was comfortable, his real self came out. He had patience and persistence, I'll give him that much.




Who knows... I rarely even visit this thread, I just came in because I noticed all the activity and was curious.

His mother said that?!?! That's fucked. It's one thing to deal with someone being verbally/physically abusive, and the constant self-doubt and blame you can heap upon yourself for it, but for someone else to come along and blame you for it, especially an older woman, that's appalling.

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I wouldn't know. I've always been the abusive partner

I wasn't jealous or anything but I enjoyed making my exes suffer.

Karma bit back with those rectal issues of yours though, eh. hehehehe

 

[IliveForJuve]

true. Karma's a bitch.

 

[Ramin]

Zack, you should try to put off the sex for like two weeks and see if your happy with her after two weeks. From what you say, it sounds like the attraction and sex is the main thing that is keeping you in this relationship.

When is she says "I don't want you to go out alone", it indirectly says "I don't trust you". How can that be even after 5 years of being together? Can't hide everything behind sex. Eventually she'll get old, her body will change, sex appeal will decrease, more arguing about where to go, with whom etc.

 

[Raz]

Go ahead, find a gorgeos looking redhead with a body that makes you not care about the porn anymore and the best ass you can lay a hand on, that is caring and sticks with you despite looking like a fat piece of shit after 3 years, and takes your shitty habits, and sort of suits your libido considering she's female.

Seriously, good luck with that.

Done that (apart from the fat part ), but I can go out with my friends when I want.

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Oh and Ramin, sex is important. I would say it is very important in relationship. If both are happy and satisfied it has the potential for a great relationship, but you have to work on other things too besides sex, but when you're not in your 40 or 50ties sex is definitely high on a priority list for a healthy and longterm relationships.

 

[JCK]

I wish I can squat like this or like my young ones do. I can easily do it with a kettlebell or air squats but with the bar it's almost impossible.

 

[Maddy]

I wish I can squat like this or like my young ones do. I can easily do it with a kettlebell or air squats but with the bar it's almost impossible.

Better get stretching my man.

 

[JCK]

Better get stretching my man.

Dude, I do yoga three times a week. I go this deep with a kettlebell and probably front squat too. I think it's mostly fear that I don't with the bar on my shoulders.

 

[Quetzalcoatl]

I wouldn't know. I've always been the abusive partner

I wasn't jealous or anything but I enjoyed making my exes suffer.

@Völler

 

[Maddy]

Dude, I do yoga three times a week. I go this deep with a kettlebell and probably front squat too. I think it's mostly fear that I don't with the bar on my shoulders.

Perhaps you have bad shoulder mobility and yoga might not be helping that? Perhaps your hip flexors as well.

I had trouble's low bar squatting my first six months due to bad shoulder mobility and it's still a minor problem. Long live sitting in front of a computer hours a day.

 

[Salvo]

I had a girlfriend who started out pretty benign, but didn't really want me hanging out with friends. Especially surfing. She didn't like to surf, and she thought I shouldn't surf either, because apparently the idea of me being out surfing with girls in the ocean in bikinis and wetsuits, made her incredibly jealous. It started out mild, but after about a year of being together, she'd get drunk at home when I was out surfing, and then scream at me and cry when I got home. It got so bad, that she tried to stab me one night out of some warped version of jealousy, because I went surfing with a friend and his sister. We stayed together for a month after that, and I had to hide the kitchen knives if I knew she'd been drinking. It was fucked. Those types of possessive relationships always get progressively worse.

Where are you from?

 

[JCK]

Perhaps you have bad shoulder mobility and yoga might not be helping that? Perhaps your hip flexors as well.

I had trouble's low bar squatting my first six months due to bad shoulder mobility and it's still a minor problem. Long live sitting in front of a computer hours a day.

I don't think so because I do hand stands and my downward facing dog is almost perfect also my shoulder stands, I am perpendicular to the ground. As for the hips, I can fold my head between my calves when doing front folds both standing and sitting. As I said, I squat deep without a bar or with a weight in front. I am guessing it is a balance issue and fear.

As for the computer thing, when at work I am standing by my desk almost the entire time.

 

[JuveJay]

Honestly ? I've never understood it eighter.



Girls these days are into these faggy metrosexual "new males".

I'm as 1980s as i can be

The 80s, where you can look as camp as possible yet still be manly.

Going out for my first run for about 3 weeks before the game, oh joy. Been doing lifting but I don't think this 3lbs I put on over Christmas is much muscle