What would you consider not a wasteful way of spending time?
That's the thing. What I consider wasteful might be the biggest joy of someones life. It's hard to point a finger and say "hey, I'm right, suck it". Then again, there are some borders cause you surely can't go on and kill people, destroy peoples property or molest someone just because you think it's funny or it feels good. There's law to restrain people from doing stupid shit.
Majority of "figuring out life" comes down to fun IMO. And it's where everything goes different because fun is defined differently. But it's hard to imagine people connect when their sense of fun is worlds apart. Some might enjoy reading while other enjoys travers. Being an introvert/extrovert obviously makes a big difference, although such things change in a life span so not even there you stick with one route.
It comes down to an individual. Still, objectively looking you can pass a soft-ish judgment if someone is on the right path or not. I mean, what Lapa is doing is totally fucking crazy

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Different strokes. Might make for confusing times but try to view as an opportunity rather than obstacle. Life would be a shitty bore if there was just one right path all the time.
For example i enjoy stability in life where RUS fills the void through crossdressing and flushing his lithium down the toilet
No doubt about that.
People are quite complex. Way too complex. Hence it's quite silly to see people in shock after a job loss, wage drop, relationship breakdown, divorce, etc. You can't find the same leaves on one tree. They are all different despite the same look, let alone people who have such brain machine it's insane.
What do you mean by stability? Obviously I can sense what you mean but I'd still like to read your thoughts.