What Are You Doing Right Now? (146 Viewers)

[swag]

Wow. This is really something else.

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@aaron

How many hookers can I pick up with a bottle of wine and 247 pesos?

Dude, that don't look like the Philly airport!

I can't bring myself to tell anyone else, not friends, not families, so I will write it here.

My boyfriend and I, after a 2.5 yr relationship had decided to call it off. I wanted marriage, he wanted the same, however is not able to meet my condition to convert to Islam. I have no strength to entertain any "religion is stupid" argument etc., but why it is important to me is not because it is what is required as a Muslim, it is my own personal choice - I was brought up as one, and would like to live in a household that shared the same values. Religions or not, I think couples need to have common, shared values, especially when it comes to raising children.

Anyway on paper he could do it but he has told me he does not think he can live up to my expectations in practice, and he is not comfortable with the idea of raising mus kids in Australia (he is Australian.) So after many rounds of discussions, we both finally grew a pair and called it off after many, many tears.

It is such a shit feeling having to break up when you both really love each other but I don't think love can sustain a marriage and these issues need to be addressed now before it bites us both in the ass in the future (well HAD a future, not anymore I guess.)

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH can't stop crying. Farken can't imagine having to start all over again. We are, were, both each other's everything.

Very sorry to hear that, sallyi. I guess the upside -- as if you could even see any upside right now (yeah, right) -- is that this experience help confirms what you want for yourself and your own life in less uncertain terms for the future.

It sucks. But it also sounds like your bf was brutally honest about himself and things too, which is what you both need now rather than later.

You'll get through it, though it will take time. And you'll be better for it in life... you know that, but let me remind you for right now.

I disagree. It is very much the time. When people are heartbroken because they think they have lost the love of their lives, it is time to remind them that perhaps they have not. She sees it as impossible to raise children with this man. Either she made a mistake and mistook the same religion for sharing the same values or she was right in calling it off. If she was right, she clearly has not lost her everything.

OMG, Andries is kind of right.

Figure of speech man. This just happened hours ago give me a break

I understand that with everything else in life, this too shall pass. I have seen it many times, where people break up with their so called 'loves of their lives' and then move on to find someone else.

I just never thought I would end up as one, and boy it's painful as hell right now

The human condition likes the "love of our life" belief. But the fact is that everyone in life will 'leave' us at some point, if not us to them. We don't get a choice in that -- at least as long as we're mere mortals. So it's important to appreciate the people in your life when you have them in your life. But life is always about change...

 

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[IliveForJuve]

I wouldn't mind marrying a Muslim as long as I get to have other wives.

 

[Dostoevsky]

It was many years ago. The pain goes away, eventually.

Most of the time pain does go away only when you meet a new person to fill that hole. Usually that 'give it time' talk is rubbish as it hardly disappears just like that.

It's never easy to walk past that person so you're lucky you never get to see her anyway (or used to).

 

[Jem83]

Most of the time pain does go away only when you meet a new person to fill that hole.

:mut:

 

[KB824]

I can't bring myself to tell anyone else, not friends, not families, so I will write it here.

My boyfriend and I, after a 2.5 yr relationship had decided to call it off. I wanted marriage, he wanted the same, however is not able to meet my condition to convert to Islam. I have no strength to entertain any "religion is stupid" argument etc., but why it is important to me is not because it is what is required as a Muslim, it is my own personal choice - I was brought up as one, and would like to live in a household that shared the same values. Religions or not, I think couples need to have common, shared values, especially when it comes to raising children.

Anyway on paper he could do it but he has told me he does not think he can live up to my expectations in practice, and he is not comfortable with the idea of raising mus kids in Australia (he is Australian.) So after many rounds of discussions, we both finally grew a pair and called it off after many, many tears.

It is such a shit feeling having to break up when you both really love each other but I don't think love can sustain a marriage and these issues need to be addressed now before it bites us both in the ass in the future (well HAD a future, not anymore I guess.)

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH can't stop crying. Farken can't imagine having to start all over again. We are, were, both each other's everything.

Girl, I am so sorry to hear that. But at the same time I applaud you for your conviction. I'm going to come off sounding like a cliche, but the right decisions are almost always the hardest, especially in such a delicate subject as religion.

@Seven is right. You will be better off for it, and his timing couldn't have been better to say it.

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@sallyinzaghi, the pain does go away. Just remember two things.

#1) for a little while at least, everything around you will remind you of him. Even things that you never associated with him before. You mind and heart will do that to you.

#2) there is no timetable. You come through this when you come through it

 

[Hængebøffer]

Sorry to hear about the relationship. Your view on raising children kind of makes me angry.

 

[Kate]

Philadelphia and their fucking airport. What an embarrassment @ALC

UGH, I'm about to buy tickets which have me sitting there for 7 hours on a layover. Other choice was 20 hours.

 

[KB824]

UGH, I'm about to buy tickets which have me sitting there for 7 hours on a layover. Other choice was 20 hours.

As bad as that might seem, it still isn't as bad as landing in Philadelphia, sitting on the tarmac, getting off at gate F37, run to Gate F10 to catch a shuttle to gate A10, and then boarding the plane with three minutes to spare

 

[Kate]

As bad as that might seem, it still isn't as bad as landing in Philadelphia, sitting on the tarmac, getting off at gate F37, run to Gate F10 to catch a shuttle to gate A10, and then boarding the plane with three minutes to spare

Which is why I also discarded the three flight option that had 1 hour layovers between each one. I'd rather have that time, knowing I won't miss the next one. I'm glad you got there eventually.

 

[Wings]

Most of the time pain does go away only when you meet a new person to fill that hole. Usually that 'give it time' talk is rubbish as it hardly disappears just like that.

It's never easy to walk past that person so you're lucky you never get to see her anyway (or used to).

I went all Seven at myself after a while & things got better. After that I just went into shutdown mode on her. It worked.

 

[Enron]

Which is why I also discarded the three flight option that had 1 hour layovers between each one. I'd rather have that time, knowing I won't miss the next one. I'm glad you got there eventually.

I like the hour plus layovers. You hit the head, grab a bite and relax while you wait for the next flight.

 

[swag]

Sorry to hear about the relationship. Your view on raising children kind of makes me angry.

It's not like she's raising goats, Bøffer.

 

[Wings]

Sorry to hear about the relationship. Your view on raising children kind of makes me angry.

Where would you draw the line?

 

[Kate]

I like the hour plus layovers. You hit the head, grab a bite and relax while you wait for the next flight.

I don't mind longer ones, but 7 is pushing it. I can have a nice leisurely lunch and a beer or something, but then what?

 

[Wings]

I don't mind longer ones, but 7 is pushing it. I can have a nice leisurely lunch and a beer or something, but then what?

If you can go out of the airport take a cab to the city & chill out.

 

[Red]

I don't mind longer ones, but 7 is pushing it. I can have a nice leisurely lunch and a beer or something, but then what?

Just repeat the exercise of having a nice leisurely lunch and a beer.

 

[Enron]

Just repeat the exercise of having a nice leisurely lunch and a beer.

Add an after dinner cocktail of whisky.

 

[Red]

Add an after dinner cocktail of whisky.

And then realise you've missed your flight.

 

[Enron]

And then realise you've missed your flight.

The upside is you can have another.

 

[Osman]

And then realise you've missed your flight.

As someone who works in an Airport, its suprising how often this happens lol.


Kate if you have transit in Stockholm airport there will be free drinks and long talks of how much cooler then lagertha you are