AndreaCristiano

Nato, Vive, e muore Italiano
Jun 9, 2011
19,126
It helps to find someone where it isn't as much work, or that it's work that you love.

It's amazing that as civilized we think our cultures to be, we're still no smarter than 9-year-olds when it comes to any public social discourse on the realities of marriage. Being a parent ranks up there too.
no truer words brother!
 

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Lilith

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May 19, 2006
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It helps to find someone where it isn't as much work, or that it's work that you love.

It's amazing that as civilized we think our cultures to be, we're still no smarter than 9-year-olds when it comes to any public social discourse on the realities of marriage. Being a parent ranks up there too.
I think this is key because some people can make your life very difficult.
 

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L'autista
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Sep 23, 2003
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I think this is key because some people can make your life very difficult.
People make their own lives difficult too. But as much as I am a huge supporter of marriage as a married guy of 9 years now (and 16 years in the same relationship), I also have to say that public discussion and the media treat marriage at the level of Prince Charming and Snow White for a nine-year-old watching a Disney movie. I don't think that helps the divorce rate, as people rush in absolutely clueless and it's not entirely their fault.
 

AndreaCristiano

Nato, Vive, e muore Italiano
Jun 9, 2011
19,126
People make their own lives difficult too. But as much as I am a huge supporter of marriage as a married guy of 9 years now (and 16 years in the same relationship), I also have to say that public discussion and the media treat marriage at the level of Prince Charming and Snow White for a nine-year-old watching a Disney movie. I don't think that helps the divorce rate, as people rush in absolutely clueless and it's not entirely their fault.
very very true
 

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L'autista
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Sep 23, 2003
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It's as if social customs, TV shows, and even public culture were telling us that playing with C-4 explosives was fun and exciting and that everyone should do so at some time in their life. And the truth is that it certainly can be. But you can blow off you and your loved ones' heads doing it if you don't know what you're doing.

That cultures have selectively hidden much of this from public awareness makes me wonder if there's a necessarily suicidal element to it for society's benefit. :p
 

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