Yes, but you're not in football. And there is very much a gray zone. What happens now is sometimes you get a player who touches the ref like you'd touch a friend when saying 'WTF is going on?'. Sometimes the ref does nothing about such behaviour, sometimes it's a red card. It is very gray.
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One also tried to influence the ref, the other didn't

. I have no business with claims other football clubs may or may not be making. From the video it is clear that Bonucci
did not touch the ref. But his behaviour is just as inexcusable if we're really talking about the referee's integrity. But I guess we're not.