how do i tell her....? (14 Viewers)

HelterSkelter

HelterSkelter

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Apr 15, 2005
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i had to get this out of my system somehow.

there's this girl.
i know her through a common friend.
i first came across her about her a year ago.
and i was all over her,physically atleast.i thought she was the hottest thing god had created.
but then we had some arguements,and i ended up hating her and breaking all contact with her again.i was never in a relationship with her,even though she knew i fancied her.i didnt LOVE her,i only thought she was hot,super hot.

some time bak i got into contact with her again.and things have been going on smoothly till now,better than they were before actually.
but NOW..
ive fallen for her...BAD..real bad..
she doesnt know this.
and the worse part is..she likes someone else.its one sided.the guy doesnt like her..

and i dont have the balls to tell her.
i dont have the balls to ask her out.
i dont have enough money with me to take her out to a great place.
i have a shitty car.
ive never EVER dated a girl,and i duno what to do.
:down:

im in LOVE..:down:
and this sux..
i feel so lame..

i hate it.

i know im not exactly the most LIKEABLE member on the forum coz of my cassano opinions..
but anyone..

im in dire straits!!
 

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Slagathor

Slagathor

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Jul 25, 2001
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Look, you're never gonna get anywhere if you're afraid to open your mouth. You're going to have to do it eventually, whether or not you decide to make the first moves through anonymous letters or flowers left on her porch.

So start gathering courage, young lad.
 
Elnur_E65

Elnur_E65

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Feb 21, 2004
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Just put on your headphones and listen to music... over... and over... and over again.

Catch the moment and actually start to enjoy the fact that you are feeling bad. This sounds extremely sick, but that's what I do.
 
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HelterSkelter

HelterSkelter

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Apr 15, 2005
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    what if im turned down???

    and even if i DO ask her out..
    i dont even fuking know wt to do!!
    shitty car..no money..!!

    and ive got black sabbaths' NIB' on..not that it helps..but it actually makes me feel worse.
     
    Slagathor

    Slagathor

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    Jul 25, 2001
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    ++ [ originally posted by axlrose85 ] ++
    what if im turned down???
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    If you're turned down life goes on. Jesus, nobody reaches adulthood without having been turned down a few times! It's not something you should fear :)

    and even if i DO ask her out..
    i dont even fuking know wt to do!!
    shitty car..no money..!!
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    Hey, relax, if she's really the girl you think she is, she won't care about the car or the money. You just have to do something romantic and sensitive. A picnic is cheap for example. Do something thoughtful, that isn't too expensive. As long as it's romantic, chances are she'll love it.

    That does NOT involve sneaking into a compound to watch a car rally from behind a dumpster or something. Just so we're clear on things :D
     
    Elnur_E65

    Elnur_E65

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    Feb 21, 2004
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    ++ [ originally posted by axlrose85 ] ++
    and even if i DO ask her out..
    i dont even fuking know wt to do!!
    shitty car..no money..!!

    and ive got black sabbaths' NIB' on..not that it helps..but it actually makes me feel worse.
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    FORGET her, man!

    If she's in for fancy cars and the money, she does NOT DESERVE you!

    Hell, she don't deserve you JUST because she likes somebody else!

    I'd advise you listen to some uplifting vocal trance, makes you feel on top of the world. Armin Van Buuren's new album is pretty interesting.
     
    swag

    swag

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    Sep 23, 2003
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    We need a "Dear Juventuz" columnist here, I swear. ;)

    My advice? Don't try to be someone you're not. She'll see through the high-end dinners and nice cars and stuff. And if she doesn't, she's superficial and is worth tossing back off the boat anyway. Just be yourself -- that's gotta be what she's interested in.

    Chances are, based on your description, she doesn't know what she wants yet. She's probably too young to have a clue. Or at least if she thinks she knows what she wants, she will make painful mistakes figuring it out over the years. But none of that is relevant now.

    Stick to being yourself, and it's good practice to work up the courage to maybe ask her out without a lot of baggage or assumptions overhead. See if she takes the bait. It would be good practice for you, and she won't feel like this is some kind of commitment, albeit very minor. Keep your expectations low and keep it light. At worst, you'll be no worse off than you are now.

    Good luck, Cassano lover. ;)
     
    Espectro

    Espectro

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    Jul 12, 2002
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    Save yourself the pain... don't tell her anything... Love is overrated :D:D:D:D:D:D:D

    No, seriously... take a chance, life is about taking risks, you have to tell her how you fell, but don't just say like nothing...

    take her to a special place, after a while of conversation and when you know that nobody will interrup you tell her that she is very special for you, tell her that you have been thinking about your relationship and that you fell that you want to take it one step fordward....

    Tell her that you know that in the past things may have gone wrong, but that you want a chance to make it rigth this time... together...

    Tell her that you have think this very well and that you are very sure about it, tell her that if she accepts you, you will try at your best to make her the happiest women in the world, and that you will try everything to never let her regret the desition of accept you back...

    Trow some nice things in the process... then tell her what you fell, and if you can kiss her...

    If she say yes, your done, if she says no, well then at least you said what you felt..


    Thats it...
     
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    HelterSkelter

    HelterSkelter

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    Apr 15, 2005
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    thanks.

    shes 16 btw,.and this is pretty young.so maybe she isnt too old to know that she wants.
    but i really dont have too great an idea about women.
    heck..she's a girl!

    females are complex creatures.ill never figure them out.

    how old are you guys,im just curious.you DO sound pretty old.older than me atleast.
     
    swag

    swag

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    Sep 23, 2003
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    ++ [ originally posted by axlrose85 ] ++
    females are complex creatures.ill never figure them out.
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    As someone once said, "Any form of artificial intelligence would have to be male. Attempting to create artificial female intelligence would be an impossible task of convoluted logic." :)

    how old are you guys,im just curious.you DO sound pretty old.older than me atleast.
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    Old enough to be your father. :sigh:

    Oh yeah, it's true. ;)
     

    Zlatan

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    Jun 9, 2003
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    Just shag her FFS.



    BTW, let's say she rejects you: so fucking what? Big deal, take it like a man, show her that you can handle it and sxhe wont mention it again.

    Move on.
     
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