++ [ originally posted by swag
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Problems with parents? Shocking.
Well, I'm not a parent. But I'll say this -- too many people spend their lives angry and resentful because their parents were far from perfect. Parents are a child's first image of who is supposed to be perfect -- as they look up to them as models.
Well, everybody -- parents and children alike -- are far from perfect. Parents have had their own parents who were just as messed up and imperfect. So your choice is either to deal with it and move on, or dwell on it and let it suck all the positive energy out of you. You can either sulk and blame your parents for everything wrong in your life -- or decide to appreciate what your parents have done to get you started and then decide to be responsible for yourself going forward.
Humanity has this victimization mentality that sometimes gets us caught in destructive patterns that we look to blame others outside ourselves for our circumstances -- and use that as an excuse to not take much personal responsibility in correcting that.
In short: once you grow up, you gotta quit yer *****ing and let go of that crap.
Like killing abusive parents will somehow make your lives better after the fact. People just don't really think sometimes...